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this post was submitted on 09 Aug 2024
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Actually, I don't want everyone to have parents like me. My parents divorced when I was too young to remember why and neither has explained why it happened. I want parents to actually teach their children how to live healthy lives. School has its place, but if you want school to teach children everything, then you might as well send them to boarding schools the minute they can string together coherent sentences.
Oooooohh, you've idealized a system that you've never experienced because you had shitty parents.
Yes, it would be nice if everyone's parents were responsible and prepared, it would be nice if everyone had an extended family around them. I think everyone agrees with that.
The reality of the situation is PARENTS most often lack the training and resources to raise a kid. Parents lack the support of family, both parents are likely to be to work to afford their family.
The system you want doesn't exist because nearly every member of our current system is engaged in capitalism, including the people taking care of the children for money, AKA daycares.
I see what you want, even if you don't realize it, I wish I had good parents too, I hated school, but at least there were examples of good people there to show me how to live a non degenerate life, unlike my parents.
Oh, I know I want good parents. That much is painfully obvious. If my worst problem was that I was bored with my life, that would be great.
But again, where does it end? We need to draw the line somewhere and start holding people accountable for how they raise their kids. We need families to unite and provide for children however they can, even if that just means grandma watches them play when they're home. Any little bit helps. We're so atomized in America that maintaining a healthy family structure, much less raising children effectively, is difficult. The end result is that teachers are struggling to keep up and becoming burnt out. It would be better for everyone if people could just teach their children non-academic stuff instead of expecting someone else to do it for them.
You want to hold people accountable for having all of their time that they should be spending with their children, mandatory for living?
You are angry with a system that only awards time to the wealthy, you've put the onus in the hands of the exploited.
You want a better experience for children, start with supporting parents, not imagining ways to punish them.
Socially responsible, not criminally responsible. If I'm a parent and my kids are hanging out with another family, and I find out that my kid keeps getting smacked around by the other family's kids, then I'm not gonna bring my kid over to that family any longer. Sucks to be them. Same deal here. If we start discouraging people from atomizing into the smallest possible family units so they can spend more time together, it'll reduce demand for real estate, power consumption, all sorts of things. It's how we've lived for centuries, fleeing your state the minute you turn 18 isn't something that was done much until recently.
Mostly I'm just annoyed at books that are inaccurately titled and people who expect schools to teach children absolutely everything.
I do want a better experience for children, and I will gladly support them. This is partly a cost of living problem, but just as much a problem is people tuning out and deciding not to raise their kids any longer; you can see this from the entire genre of videos online where teachers talk about how Gen Alpha is barely literate, if that.