What your wife has been through is beyond my imagination. I'm sure she's been through a lot of bullshit, for no other reason than being a woman. Her memories, and how she feels about it, is 100% valid. Normally that should go without saying, but in this thread I'm not sure that it does.

I refuse to consciously treat women differently than men. Treating women like fragile little fairy like beings, is doing them a disservice. That the soldier at Arlington was a woman is irrelevant to me, unless she was attacked because of her gender.

How the Trump staff got away with what they did is baffling to me. That they didn't get their asses stomped can only mean that the soldier was alone and outnumbered. And that she has to live in fear now, that's absurd, not implausible, but the situation is definitely absurd. Your country is rife with domestic terrorists and yet your government does nothing. Whether someone should get charged for attacking army personal should not be up to the individual. If you attack army personal carrying out their duties, then that should be met with swift and effective sanctions, not frigging threats of further terrorism.