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What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
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What I hear is procrastination combined with self-shaming, and comrade, the first is fine and the latter is only okay in small doses, you deserve better than a heaping spoonful.
Procrastination isn't even a bad thing unless it is impacting you negatively, like there is something you really do need to get done and something is a roadblock. Even then, don't forget to have perspective: is the thing getting done more of an external imposition or something you do want to do? Most things are the former IMO and it isn't your fault to not want to do them right away. In addition, it is totally fine to push things off when overwhelmed so long as they don't put you in a much worse position. So... forgive yourself, comrade, and then divvy up your to-dos into a real priority list and how you will ensure you take care of yourself by doing the stuff that really needs doing vs. the stuff you might be 100% needlessly feeling bad about. And then forgive yourself again because it isn't easy to work through these patterns of thought and you won't be perfect at this next attempt either. And that's okay because you'll be getting better at taking care of yourself!
Re: self-shaming, please always remind yourself that this is only something in your head and it is only useful in small, friendly doses. Like, "oh I said I would read that next chapter before my next meeting, I had better do that so I don't waste my time there". By the time it is at the "I suck" level it really just isn't accurate or good for you. I would also say that a lot of this is probably not a conscious decision despite how I am talking about it, so also give yourself a break there. Some things are learned patterns from our lives (e.g. someone making us feel inadequate), sometimes our brains impose this stuff on us, sometimes it is something beaten into us by bad experiences, etc. It can take real work to counter these thought patterns even if sometimes we know they are not accurate. Please feel welcome to vent here and don't sleep on talking to a pro IRL if that is available to you. It really can help a lot.
I think there's a disconnect here.
Imagine not having anything important to do, having a complex and interesting hobby you'll really enjoy doing scheduled, and then not doing it and doom scrolling all day because of the work required in setup vs lying in bed.
This isn't a problem you can solve with positive thinking and some project management software.
It really depends on what the underlying psychology and environment is like.
Organization and reminders will help in some instances because sometimes all it takes is retraining your brain to think A instead of B when you use a space or do a particular activity. Or to make something less overwhelming by breaking it down into pieces. Something along the lines of CBT.
But this can also be totally inadequate if something like depression or ADHD or something else like this is a contributing factor.