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"Who could have seen this coming?" -the father probably
I bet physical and/or verbal abuse was abundant in that household, probably spousal abuse as well, up to and including sexual and financial.
No sexual abuse reported, but everything else, yeah.
More red flags than a May Day Parade, like usual.
People don't agree with what I'm going to say, but nonconsensual *nonmonogamous sexual relationships are physically and emotionally abusive. Physically because they potentially expose the non-consenting to disease, and death by disease. Emotionally and actually financially, because of gaslighting, withholding, gaslighting. And even with laws on the books, all abuse is underreported, and then when it is, there's the victim blaming mentality, from report to trial, if it makes it that far. *Autocorrect
What are you on about
Reality.
What is the relevance?
The comment to which I responded.
I don't see where it's relevant to that comment. It seems so "A HUMAN HEAD WEIGHS EIGHT POUNDS" in timing.
Yes, so irrelevant to identify various forms of sexual abuse in a comment that says it wasn't reported. Thanks so much for pointing that out.
Yes, it's completely irrelevant when:
And your previous comment:
It's fucking weird.
And your use of non-consentual non-monogamy instead of saying, you know, cheating.
People know what sexual abuse is, we don't need your weird attempt at clarification.
One thing I've noticed is people seldom attack solid points unless they feel threatened by them. In a society that is still highly patriarchal and hierarchical, I think it's especially relevant to define sexual abuse, especially where the law doesn't yet recognize it. For hundreds of years, corporal punishment wasn't legally abuse, either. And I did say cheating, that you didn't like the specific terminology is your prerogative, as is your disagreement.
Thanks for sharing, enjoy your day/night.
You have no "solid point", you are making shit up.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5958351/
ETA title: Open Relationships, Nonconsensual Nonmonogamy, and Monogamy Among U.S. Adults: Findings from the 2012 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior
Are you writing an academic paper?
There was no report or sexual abuse, it's fucking weird you keep talking about it.
Thank you!
ETA: I'm honored to be weird in that I take the time and trouble to educate people who may be being abused, rather than the the kind of weird that's so heavily invested in down voting an educational comment that less abuse victims would see it. The last kind of weird is the kind of weird that reminds me of, "they let you do it!" And "binders of women!" The kind of weird that suggests someone is uncomfortable with these kinds of abuse being highlighted.
Are you saying sexual abuse (as you define in your comment) WAS reported? I’m confused why you’re defining it here.
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Sorry. That was my original comment, I thought you saw it. Under reported. Abuse is underreported. I'm not saying it happened or didn't, but as the person to whom I was replying noted, s bunch of other red flags were prevalent. Sometimes, for those intentionally or intentionally unaware, red flags simply don't register; especially in heavily patriarchal Bible Belt cultures in the USA. Even in France, where that old man brought in 51 men to sexually abuse his wife, because he said, "she's my wife, I do with her as I please."
Ok, it sounded like you were saying you had some additional information that there was sexual abuse (like he was a known cheater or something). You’re just saying it’s possible even if it was not reported. Fair enough, the guy sounds absolutely wretched and probably doesn’t deserve the benefit of the doubt.
He deserves due process. It's up to the victims and legal people, from enforcement to prosecution to the court, whether or not he gets it.
So you are making wild accusations with no proof?
I bet Mave has cp and likes touching kids.
See how ridiculous that looks and sounds?
And what proof do you have of this? If you have any sources please link them.
https://www.verywellhealth.com/signs-of-domestic-abuse-5209419
Cheating is sexual abuse. Anything that does not include noncorerced consent is sexual abuse. It is the partner's emotional, physical health and life at risk.
https://www.verywellhealth.com/signs-of-domestic-abuse-5209419 notice the wheel.
It's passive aggressive and it is abusive. If that triggers a cheater, perhaps they should seek a therapist.
I am a survivor and thriver after child abuse and domestic abuse. It was once legal to beat wives as long as the stick wasn't bigger around than a thumb. It was abusive. It is legal to emotionally abuse people. It is abusive. Spousal rape was once legal. It is abusive. Owning other humans was once legal. It is abusive.
ETA: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/braving-hope/202401/5-things-we-get-wrong-about-cheating
So you actually have zero proof that the guy in this article is an abuser?
What? Please copy and paste where I said that. "I bet". I also didn't say "guy," .I thought you were asking for proof of what I said to Jordanlund, since those with problems were you know, relying to that specific comment. I saw the comment users replied to. Nothing more and nothing less.
You appear to have accidentally responded to a different thread of comments. I mean this genuinely and not sarcastically.
Thanks so much for telling me! That's weird, because when I clicked the reply, I responded in the thread I was shown. I wonder if this is some weird update issue with my device or whatever. Maybe it would behoove all of us to assume good faith, even where malice or obstinacy seems obvious.
Thanks again.
You must have a very exciting betting wallet. I usually just got for one thing rather than spray hedge bets.on all the things I can basrlessly assume. Also, you didn't cover race or politics in there.