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And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.

How the fuck am I supposed to tell what's just people doing things at random and what's a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call "social norms"? Down with NTs.

Honestly while it's really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it's basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.

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[-] the_itsb@hexbear.net 42 points 1 week ago

mfw I found out that "are you hungry" actually means "will you eat with me" and "what're you doing this weekend" means "would you like to make plans?" 🤦

these are things I learned in the last 12 months – I just turned 42

pretty much all the time, it feels like everyone got a memo that I missed

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 27 points 1 week ago

I often ask my wife "are you hungry" and then we both have a discussion about both our hunger levels and actual willingness to eat, lmao

We really do need a Gayroller-2000 style emote for neurotypicals.

[-] Gorb@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

But this makes sense because i want to know other people's hunger levels to make a decision on what to do about it. The followup question is usually about what kind of food and when and coming to a consensus on what eataging will satisfy our differing hunger levels.

If I'm asking a rando colleague out to lunch my question literally just is. "Pub?" And i get a yay or nay

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago

Note that the_itsb says the quesrion is not literally about hunger levels, I agree tho.

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