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how do I accept I'll never know why any employer rejected me?
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All there is to accept is the knowledge that the vast majority of employers, the wealth holding members of society, do not actually care about anyone that won't earn them more money.
And then also that not all, but most of society will also tell you that you must be doing something wrong, it must be your fault.
"The wealth holding members of society"
Hahaha, every hiring manager I've worked for (you know, someone looking to fill a spot on our team) wasn't exactly what I'd call "a wealth holder".
They're middle-to-senior management, making anywhere from 100k to 300k, at most. Sometimes quite a bit less.
We're talking people who are a good 3 levels away from the C class. Meaning they'd be competing with everyone at their level, and above, to get to those higher seats in the pyramid.
Hiring managers are rarely farther up the food chain, unless they're hiring for those seats farther up the food chain - which isn't any of us here.
It's It like there's a team of managers who just do hiring/interviews. HR handles the initial stages, and the actual "hiring manager" is the person who's looking to add someone to their team, someone they'll be managing.
Well, I'd say 100k to 300k qualifies as more money than I've ever made in a single year of my life, more than I've made in my entire life if we go closer to 300k...
But what I meant was that the ultimate hiring process is dictated, signed off on or altered, all the way down, by the wealth holding members of society. The top execs, the board.
And that the society created, and largely owned, by their policies is essentially gaslighting us every day.
Have you ever spent an entire year applying to jobs... as a full time job? After having had a career, losing it to a disability, then trying to go back after years of recovery?
With maybe one reply every few months, despite being qualified for everything you are applying to?
Becoming depressed as everyone around you spends the first month giving you mindless cheery platitudes, then forgetting you exist, then becoming angry when you tell them you can't afford to do anything that involves money?
Then when you finally cave and go work some bullshit job you are immensely overqualified for, everyone blames you for not living up to your potential?
They made it, it worked out for them, why didn't it work out for you?
Even though it never once occured to them to maybe help you out monetarily and avoid going into massive debt, or by putting in a good word for you with their network of contacts.
Unless it’s a small company, they don’t know anything about you, nor make a decision in any way specific to you. They agreed to a budget expenditure and they want to know the hiring manager followed through. There is no personal connection