Sorry, I think I misread a part of your post. My mind knee jerk subbed in a similar argument I hear a lot. I will be honest that much of your essay went over my head, but I think that unregulated capitalism is a bigger enemy than other users who are seen as doing something wrong with their personal choices. I think it's good to encourage imperfect or incomplete adoption of positive things over all or nothing approaches. But i don't know what xmpp is, so I could be off base here in what you're actually talking about. Apologies