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And this is the Hexbear reply thread. Please be very wary of the extremism and bigotry and know that they are largely defederated

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[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 5 points 1 month ago

Hehe, they dunked on me when I first joined Lemmy, and accidentally responded to a comment in ChapoTrapHouse, while browsing on All. Never having heard of it, I had no idea what it was.

I said something to the effect that at least Biden was keeping gas prices down, and they DID NOT LIKE THAT ONE BIT!!! It was weird to keep opening my notifications and continue to get replies for WEEKS and WEEKS after I stopped responding (I forget if I deleted the comment even - normally I never do such, especially if I am wrong b/c it helps to preserve a record for posterity, so at most I would put text in strikethrough format and add an Edit statement).

And that's on me, for going into their space and not even posting but still commenting in a post. Although... we do not control others only ourselves, and isn't it a bit on us if we federate ChapoTrapHouse, thereby feeding users across the entire Fediverse this content? Like literally, if an instance offers CSAM, then even though hosted elsewhere we would be the ones in trouble for feeding their data to our users.

Anyway, whether their dunks are successful or not is besides the point - they at least like to talk about people in a negative manner, as they themselves claim is their purpose for existing.

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago

Oh man, sorry you went through that. They try to 'dunk' on me quite often, but it always backfires on them, funnily enough. Never had any of them actually confront me. Too scared, I suppose.

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 3 points 1 month ago

Meh, I'm not worried about myself, so much as whether the Fediverse itself will survive. Every single person that I've recommended it to irl comes back in our next encounter with how much politically extremist - and violent - rhetoric is used. Chapotraphouse is the least of the Fediverse's troubles, though it too is one of them.

Overall though they seem connected: not wanting to defederate from either lemmy.ml with its constant calls for guillotines (I mean... not that I don't understand the reason for such:-) or from hexbear.net, mainstream users are being turned away.

And since like 90% of Fediverse content is made by a couple handfuls of people, I do worry about our long-term sustainability. Oh well.

[-] Blaze@feddit.org 4 points 1 month ago

And since like 90% of Fediverse content is made by a couple handfuls of people, I do worry about our long-term sustainability

Feel free to post as well 😄

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 2 points 1 month ago

I contribute, quite a lot actually (possibly too much for the tastes of some?:-P no seriously, I do halfway mean that) - but usually as comments rather than posts.

I try to liven up the Fediverse by including graphics, to make scrolling through comments more fun and less just walls of dry text. Though I also add long walls of dry text myself from time to time as well - we gotta have variety!:-)

I tend to not judge well when to actually do a post though. Btw, do you know why I am able to see both up- and down-vote counts from a mobile webpage view, but not from a desktop one? That is so odd...

Anyway, here is one example, where the video literally received critical acclaim (as being in the top 50 videos fighting against misinformation on the internet), yet that community gave it only 7 upvotes and 5 downvotes total. I also crossposted it to a larger community, which gave it 15 upvotes and 9 downvotes. In both cases, the only comments were negative. Mind you, I actually appreciated the feedback - and thanked the people who offered it, even when saying "...title is garbage, and so I have to downvote", b/c at least it offered an explanation as to why people were downvoting, and I genuinely enjoyed being corrected by them (rather than merely wondering internally what happened).

Similarly I offered some videos from Adam Connover criticizing Trump - I remember he had some cool stuff in the past, like explaining the broken system of tax software in the US, so I don't know if he's still considered "good", but I offered. It got 3 downvotes... and zero upvotes (beyond my own added by the Lemmy software by default, so one total).

I offered another video on viruses, which got 7 upvotes and 4 downvotes. Oopsie someone else had just posted it like an hour before me, but that does not explain the poor reception b/c theirs received the same treatment.

I offered another one that I saw on imgur which I thought was REALLY cool, someone offering an explanation on indigenous peoples' belief structures surrounding dancing, it was short (<1 minute), and had nice calming music in the background. Though I was not sure how to link to it directly, so people would have to scroll down past 4 other images/videos to find it using the link. It got 5 upvotes and 2 downvotes.

Mind you, there is no point in me "complaining" (whinging) here - that's not what this is about. When someone continually offers what is not desired to be received, words like "insensitive" or even "stalker" come to mind. Sorting the posts to those communities by popularity, most seem to relate to Technology especially Linux. While in contrast, Adam Connover seems to not be popular.:-) In fact, if I sort by Controversial, most of my absolute favorite content appears there, having been HEAVILY down-voted - e.g. Innuendo Studios' Alt-Right Playbook.

From this I can conclude that there are some slight technical barriers to posting - and to assessing after-the-fact how posts are received - but mainly people need to offer posts that MATCH what the community desires. And some, like !poetry@lemmy.world, barely get any posts (that one ~1 per day, the vast majority of the time from a single poster, BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world), but that can be okay b/c a small, niche community is not necessarily "bad"... HOWEVER, small communities are SIGNIFICANTLY harder to find. You personally have been doing heroic efforts to both get the word out about those, and create them in the first place, and guide people to where they are. But there are limitations in the software that are difficult to get around.

Like... what is this "eye" icon that I see in 0.19.5? Was it there in 0.19.3? When I click it, it doesn't seem to do anything? Except on a desktop it takes me to the top of the page, thus hindering (slightly) my efforts to figure it out. I do recall somewhere an announcement that Lemmy would offer an option to only show posts that I haven't seen before - but if that is what this is supposed to do, then it is buggy as hell b/c it definitely shows things (either way) that I have visited before, not only by expanding the image but the title is literally greyed out so the browser knows that I've seen it, it's just Lemmy that seems to not know. And as we both know, documentation for how to use Lemmy - especially the web UI rather than an app - is virtually nonexistent, despite both of our efforts asking various instance admins to put e.g. !newtolemmy@lemmy.ca into the right-hand sidebar or mention it in the welcoming posts for an instance meta/admin community. Btw this eye icon thing would be a fantastic post to put into !newtolemmy@lemmy.ca, except I for one have no clue what this feature is even about, and anyway the right-hand bar says that there's only 2 visitors per week (which I suspect are both me, from here + from my alt on startrek.website).

This is long, but I did not want you think that I was ignoring you. "Just post" is far too simple a solution - there are reason why I, and by extension others (though surely for other reasons - well, some are likely shared in common while others are likely to be distinct) do not do it more often than we do currently. Most notably: it is simply not fun, if people do not wish to hear what we have to say. Though I tend to do better in comments - often I am literally the only person to have offered a comment at all, or perhaps one of like 3-5, and I am glad to (try to) help make the Fediverse a moar welcoming place for people to post to!:-)

[-] Sciaphobia@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

Overall though they seem connected: not wanting to defederate from either lemmy.ml with its constant calls for guillotines (I mean... not that I don't understand the reason for such:-) or from hexbear.net, mainstream users are being turned away.

If I hadn't found a way to block Hexbear I'd have been gone. It took me about 2 weeks to realize the users that were the most insufferable to me were largely all from there, and I was a hair from quitting Lemmy because of it. So, for me at least you have it exactly right.

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 3 points 1 month ago

Same - and also Lemmygrad.ml, both of which I replied to someone and then had to endure WEEKS and WEEKS (each) of replies of a ridiculous nature. Like who would send someone tens and tens and tens of replies, WEEKS later, who is acting in good faith? Obviously that is a "dunking", done for their emotional benefit, rather than an attempt to actually change my mind. Well they did manage to change my mind though... about them.:-)

And that started me thinking that if Lemmy was going to be just exactly like Reddit, then I wanted no part of it... and I too came within a hairsbreadth of quitting it, before I realized that I could just block the worst of it and then the rest of the content here is actually pretty great.

So now I don't blame new people who don't know that - how would/could they? If we allow each new person to be hazed like that as they enter, then we have no basis for complaining later on when nobody wants to come back.

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works -3 points 1 month ago

Yeah, the fediverse will die in a few years but I don't exclusively blame the tankies for this, it was always designed for them in mind to begin with.

I blame the regular users who, upon hearing about conservatives, immediately threw a fit and defederated all conservative instances before they could even get going. I think most Americans are to blame, really, their social divide is too overbearing and not at all willing to mingle with those of opposing political ideology.

The best solution I can think of is a federated chatroom, IRC-type deal. Not entirely sure on the logistics of how such a thing would even be moderated, but yeah, too much politics, not enough porn.

I'm personally willing to put in some effort to grow more content across the fediverse, branch out in topics. Maybe a general/random community will do well, where anything goes, but it'll need some dedicated members to get a foundation. Up to you, I suppose.

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

As an American myself, perhaps I can help explain this. We are more divided than ever before, with one side literally spouting neo-nazi propaganda (and both sides aiding genocide), and many of us expect if not quite a full-on civil war, then at least some kind of "Constitutional event" akin to the January 5 riot at the capitol to take place in the next few months.

Though whether that ever comes or not, our democracy has already fallen. For one thing, the recent(-ish) SCOTUS ruling a few months ago allows the President to literally assassinate their political rivals, fully legally, with very little oversight (I'm not aware of the particulars tho), thereby giving them (whether they ever choose to use it or not) the powers of a totalitarian dictator. And this barely scratches the surface of what all is going on with our judicial branch...

And for another, every single year Congress refuses to pass a financial budget, instead kicking it forward for months at a time as they bicker about the details, though more importantly, one side considers this obstructionism a "victory" - and this same side is the one actually putting out the call for a full-on Civil War, no joke. And this as well barely begins to scratch the surface of all the brokenness of our legislative branch...

And too the over-turning of Roe v. Wade, like the handling of the pandemic, has scared people. The same person smiling sweetly across the table as you eat Thanksgiving dinner (American holiday celebrating the "discovery", prior to the slaughter of the "Indians", by the "Saint" Christopher Columbus) is the very self-same one who if you die in the next couple of years, they were someone who helped make it happen. As in: if you don't want an abortion, then don't get one, but preventing others from getting not only "abortions", but from removing things like cancerous masses in the uterus or even already-dead, necrotic and rotting fetus left-over material, b/c of someone's fucked-up definition of what an "abortion" is. Someone who btw does not have an M.D., a Ph.D., a J.D., or any other kind of professional degree that would lend towards understanding what a "fetus" is or is not, and instead rants and raves spouting nonsense about "Jewish space lasers" and the like.

This shit is literally life and death for us. School shootings are real - and not merely limited to schools, but also shopping centers, theaters, and the like. Heck, the former president has already had two very inept assassination attempts already. We are a nation in turmoil, having already received what looks to be a fatal wound, and now just waiting to die and/or see whatever will come next. Our votes barely matter, as regardless of who we put in, the wealthy elite control them - e.g. 90% of people want some form of responsible gun control laws, yet time after time voters put people into place who will enact them yet it never happens, those people going in get bribed or blocked and then never manage to get it done, thus leaving our children to be sacrificed to the alter of greed. And ignorance. And especially obstinacy.

But setting aside all of the above, conservatives tend to be not very "fun" to talk to. I don't even mean true "conservatives" but rather what ended up replacing most of them, first with the Alt-Right that replaced socioeconomic conservatism (e.g. progressive conservativism from the Bush era gave way to the likes of Mitt Romney and Ted Cruz) and now with the Trump-focused Maga (+ the likes of Marjorie Taylor Green, and outside of politics people like Alex Jones and Joe Rogan). If you watch Innuendo Studios' The Alt-Right Playbook you can see a large litany of "tactics" used to control and twist every conversation, which often do things such as ignore most of what the other person said while hyper-focusing on a singular aspect that they then twist and distort to unrecognizable proportions before preemptively claiming "victory". Seriously, I've genuinely had better conversations with 5-year-old children.

That doesn't mean that people "like" the Democrat, left-leaning party, with its neoliberal attitudes of only pretending to care about the common man while instead enriching the wealthy, it just means that many people - especially educated ones such as we see more often on the Fediverse - "dislike" the Republican, right-leaning party, with its neoconservative attitudes of only pretending to care about the common man while instead enriching the wealthy, oh and also killing people (e.g. blocking abortions) on top of that.

I don't think most people would mind debating a real conservative though? One who was respectful and perhaps even kind? Especially if they stuck to factual argumentation rather than made-up "alternative facts" bullshit. It's just that those are so exceedingly rare as to barely exist these days. But look around - I have seen entire communities devoted to such things, and as you pointed out there are entire instances that are dedicated to them as well. Also there's Truth Social, X, and most mainstream news sources that at least offer that POV a platform - e.g. the second presidential debate with Kamala Harris lacking real-time fact checking, thereby letting Trump say just whatever he wants at any given moment. Truthfully, I do not feel that "conservative" POVs are in any way in danger of dying off. Though that does not mean that it is welcomed into every single spot across the entire internet either.

Conversations must be held in good faith. Conservatives often refuse to do so. Hence, the defederation has little to do with them being "conservative", and much to do with them being "toxic" (although those two things are not entirely unrelated...).

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

truly a third world country, huh?

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 2 points 1 month ago

I would not say that - for one thing we have nukes - but while there is much room for subtlety and nuance, there are aspects that are not entirely unlike a third-world nation...

But more to the point, while the direction that the country is turning into may be that way, the current status of living for most people is quite high. Though that too gets more complex to measure b/c if you talk about e.g. a boomer, then Americans have one of if not the highest standard of living in the world (I might be wrong about that, but it's at least "high" I think?), whereas e.g. a gen-alpha has significantly less hope for their own future.

Although the latter could change rapidly with a change in e.g. housing pricing, or more relevant, changes in laws that would allow newer housing units to be created (b/c they are sources of income for people who already have multiple homes, there is an incentive to disallow new ones to be created that would lower the value of their equity, thus leading to restrictive markets catering to that segment of society).

In any case, it is most definitely a time of turmoil. One side is fighting to offer aid to e.g. hurricane survivors, while the other side is calling for literal war and bloodshed of the other. This tends to put a damper on conversations with the latter side.

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago

well. I can only really speak about Australia, that's where I'm from

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 2 points 1 month ago

Right, so I hope this perspective from across the pond helped see how things are... tense over here.:-)

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

Do you think you're immune to this?

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 2 points 1 month ago

Absolutely NOT. Most of us have both friends and family members on both sides of this. Even neutral people are going to get roped in, even if only by the loss of someone else that we know. The pandemic showed us just how interconnected we all are - whether we acknowledge that, or even want to be, or not.

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

do you ever consider moving? leave the us to rot?

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 2 points 1 month ago

I briefly considered it but... the rest of the world is likewise devolving into fascism & totalitarianism, and anyway there's problems everywhere. None of us live forever - that's not even an option - so instead our choices are only how we face life and death. And I don't feel like giving in, even if I (literally) die on this hill, these are my people and I will help as much as I can until I cannot anymore.

[-] Blaze@feddit.org 2 points 1 month ago

I’m personally willing to put in some effort to grow more content across the fediverse, branch out in topics. Maybe a general/random community will do well, where anything goes, but it’ll need some dedicated members to get a foundation. Up to you, I suppose.

Let me introduce you to !fedigrow@lemm.ee , which can help with that

Or !justpost@lemmy.world I guess!

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago
[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 1 points 1 month ago

!justpost@lemmy.world does not seem to federate well for me - all of the posts seem to have no up (or down) votes or any comments. Then again, Discuss.Online just updated to 0.19.5 yesterday (from .3) so perhaps it's related to that. Usually when nobody from an instance has yet subscribed to a community, the posts themselves are not visible. This is the first time I've seen something like this where I can see posts, but the content in them (votes and comments) are missing.

Oh, also I see none of the posts that are more recent than a month ago (28 days). Though looking at it from a different instance reveals that there are new posts.

I just subscribed so hopefully that will help this instance federate the content in a few hours from now.

My normal process, if it helps to know, is to browse All, often by New, and if I see content that I like I will subscribe, or conversely if I dislike it (like a location-specific community) then I will block it. It seems that in this case, since nobody from my instance had subscribed before (or even weirder, someone did but then somehow that was dropped, 28 days ago), that was not working, since posts from it were not showing up even in "All".

It looks to be a very nice community - I will enjoy checking it out when it's ready, and will recommend it to others, thank you very much for sharing:-).

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 1 points 1 month ago

I don't think that Lemmy will "die" - e.g. technically Reddit still exists (as too do those older things that predated it - they have only the tiniest fraction of their former userbase, but they do still exist... technically) - but neither is it a sign of health that growth has plateaued and even probably shrunk a bit.

Worse yet, the Rexodus may have been the biggest & best chance for influx of "content creators", as in even if there is a second exodus from Reddit, it won't be the same type of people, and instead will be those who enjoyed the AI content for the last several months to year. Or maybe I am wrong, b/c a second opportunity is people fleeing from X, b/c of its toxicity (and in that case, them seeing the likes of hexbear.net and lemmygrad.ml will likely halt them from coming). But people coming from Reddit will more likely be one way (more technically minded, though also defensive and snarky) while mainstream from X will more likely be another (just normal people??? e.g. less likely to go into the Settings menu and find a way to get something to work, even before deciding that they want to remain here - we aren't all Arch users btw:-D).

But there is a third source of influx: people who come from those, or perhaps are already here, but who mostly lurk rather than post. This is where reducing the overall level of toxicity here will offer dividends in making this place seem more lively.

I very much want to respond to your thought about conservatives b/c I find that highly interesting, but I also need food atm so if you don't mind I will separate out these thoughts spatiotemporally:-).

[-] goat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

you did inspire me a bit. I posted a few things to random places I went around on. Should really be a Random button and a culture where you should post or comment on something in the communities you end up on.

[-] OpenStars@discuss.online 1 points 1 month ago

Thank you for your service!:-)

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