I got spanked and even hit a time or two as a kid.

I turned out okay considering. Had kids and thought a spanking or two wasn't bad considering what i went though so that's the stance i took. Thankfully we had ip cams instead of video baby monitors when they were babies. $90 vs $350 at the time so that's what we did. I set them up with my Synology to record continuously.

I watched a monster overreact to a common child reaction. [Not justifying just explaining (I was tired and thus had a short fuse as happens at times with young kids)] Thankfully two things had happened. (1) I had the IP camera recording everything that happened, (2) I wanted to see why my kid was acting up and make sure I was in the "right" to spank her. Spoiler, I was not. I saw an angry man react to a kid who didn't want to do something.

I cried, because I was my father when I was punished unjustly as a kid. (There were times I actually was a shit head and it was warranted, but i also remember plenty of times it was not) That morning with my 2 year old it was not. Because of that day I no longer fell into the Spanking is okay for me group.

Don't get me wrong I know there are times it can be helpful but I realized at that moment I was not a good judge of when those times were. This means I was no longer going to do it. That was me but I don't judge other who only spank.