What's odd is that Anon is so close to achieving enlightenment. I got to a point in my life where I felt like I had no idea how to attract a romantic partner. I'd dated a few times, but each time it had kind of fell into my lap, and I never got the hang of talking to women I found attractive in a way that made it clear I was interested.

So I just gave up. I accepted that I had no idea how to get a date, and I just went about my life, pursuing things that I found interesting.

And, lo and behold, I wound up meeting the woman I would marry, albeit through the mechanism of someone straight up telling me that she was interested in me.

If you're focused on "getting" a girlfriend, you're thinking of a partner as a valuable object to be acquired, and you're not enjoying your own life, and improving yourself within that life. If you don't think of romance as a pursuit, but rather as something good that can happen within the context of living your life well, then you are much better off.

Also, you've really got to get it into your head and heart that women are people and not prey animals, which I'm going to be honest, it seems might be a detail that is escaping Anon.