Malaprops to the author, this is such a mess.

But I think he's right that it's tough to overcome actual bad looks. Like if you are both naturally ugly and also unwilling to even try to be stylish or fit or whatever (some offsetting physically attractive quality) then it can be a slog. But then why the "cute" standard for a girlfriend? If you aren't willing to put in the work why do you feel you can demand it of your partner? That is such an ugly attitude.