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this post was submitted on 20 Nov 2024
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It is obvious that you and I see the screenshotted conversation very differently from one another.
I don't think FlyingSquid should have sent one rude message to that one user that one time, no. I don't see that as any kind of abuse of power.
I think I've said about as much as I want to say about this situation at this point.
Yes, we clearly do.
As an individual action and for majority of users, I would agree with you. But given how FlyingSquid behaved after being asked not to over-report comments and then proceeded to say how they're not going to report anymore, they don't feel safe or welcome in c/news, and views it as hostile. Their treatment of the user in the post I linked just comes across as being very abusive. If FlyingSquid viewed what Blackbeard so badly, what does that say about about their treatment of users in the communities they mod when they approach with much more hostility?
Because it is a hostile approach what are you on about. People aren't clairvoyants to be able to see the future and read minds of mods who will take a look at the reports. They won't know that their reports are causing a single mod to boil over in anger, especially when apparently there were two reports in two weeks?
So now you have a situation where one person sees something and reports it, and the other has been pissed off for two weeks, but not communicating their annoyance.
So the mod overreacts and reaches out to say "don't report!!!!" To which the other person says "I think this is a valid report". Which then evolves to "ok I won't report anymore".
First, why the fuck would you confront someone over two reports in two weeks? Second, why not end the conversation like an adult - saying "reporting this as misinfo is against our rules" and end it there? Third, why leave the site and their modding duties alltogether over a single interaction - with someone who hasn't been confronted before about this issue and was unaware of it? Fourth why call "ok I'll not be reporting" childish / immature as if reporting is some divine duty of the user?
The way it should've been handled is a) don't confront people over nothing. Check HALT - hungry angry lonely tired and don't start anything when that's the case. B) if they need to confront, talk to your fellow mods first to present a unified front. C) be succint and state what you find to be a problem. Don't be an ahole about it. D) when the other person reacts with "I don't want to report anymore" reply with "I am sorry to hear that and I'd rather you wouldn't stop, but ultimately that's your choice to make". Don't antagonize further for no reason.
One clarification, it was two reports in one week, I don't know why I typed out two weeks. You're completely right though. No one needs to put up with being berated, the peaceful offer to just not do reports anymore is a lot more kind than I would have been about it.