My first son was really easy and my second had about four months of really bad crying fits I was so thankful I learned the walk away and decompress for five minutes with my first. A five minute break could hold my sanity for another thirty minute wailing session. I think I would have gone insane otherwise. But yeah, their needs are incredibly easy to identify and work through just like you said. It’s just exhausting. A couple times were pretty scary because I woke up in a jolt with that feeling like I was going to drop something. At some point I sat down in a rocking chair and fell asleep while holding our second without having any memory of doing so. After the second time I asked that we be able to remove the rocking chair from the bedroom because I obviously didn’t have the foresight to not sit down while holding him in whatever my mental cognition was during that period of time.

Did I sign up for some kind of course you’re instructing or do you just generally feel entitled to try grading engagement in an open community discussion?

This is such a helpful explanation, thank you. I lived in Japan for a few years and picked up a bit of language that is lost on me over two decades but it’s the first time it has ever ‘clicked’ for me why I would get so confused trying to make sense of them. Thank you so much. I don’t think I’ll ever appreciate haiku’s in English the way so many others do, and I don’t need to for them to enjoy them. Just really wanted to respond and let you know I really appreciate you taking the time to help me understand the confusion I had a bit more than I did and maybe even feel a little less lost for always feeling confused about something so inconsequential.

I still don’t know what a haiku is and everyone I’ve tried to understand it I get confused about why they are appealing. I wish I could get in on the thing that you seem to naturally understand.

I really appreciate the summary you provided. I’m sure the user that asked got downvoted for a reason. I’ve never felt comfortable asking myself. I’ve googled it, read other explanations, and have always decided I just don’t get it. A big part of that is I read comments that are all over the spectrum and have a response from somebody saying they are a tankie. I never even heard of the term until I got on here like two years ago and it just feels like it’s a “I disagree with you so I’m going to call you a niche name that’s popular only on this particular platform” vernacular.

I wish it would die out because it’s been so diluted of meaning in this community.

I never considered this would bother anyone. The vibrator gets used probably over half the time my partner and I have sex. Even when she cums from oral and we move to PIV then when I’m getting ready I’ll hand her the vibrator when I’m getting close because her climaxing again makes it hit a lot harder for me. Usually I’m inside of her actively while she uses it but on rare occasions when I go clean up she will stay back and finish for another time.

Isn’t it ironic, like somebody getting in your uber pool on your wedding day!

I hung and nullified a jury myself. It was very uncomfortable. At two points I requested the judge to come in and explain to the rest of the jurors I didn’t owe them any explanation for my not guilty verdict. It took the trial out an additional two days and everyone was pissed at me but I was not going to sit in my privilege and give a guy a felony conviction after months of obvious police harassment.

Traveled into the future until I could find the answer online and then went back in time to work on my project.

Compressors are variable and much more efficient. More efficient and variable speed fan motors along with more efficient blade design. Insulation now is drastically better than glass wool of the past. Electronics are able to be integrated in order to provide more fine grain control and overall design has been improved just due to efficiency standards being placed on a bright yellow sticker. In the past design and component choices never really considered efficiency, while efficiency doesn’t always win out it’s a weighted factor and influences the overall engineering and design in ways that just didn’t happen before efficiency regulations came about.

I trained myself over years after realizing stress was killing me, I was unpredictable to be around, and struggled to eat with any regularity which led to really bad eating habits.

What ended up working is when something would happen that upset me I would close my eyes, take a deep breath, go to a room by myself and just sit down with my eyes closed and do box breathing until my nerves settled. Then when I opened my eyes I would say to myself, ok let’s go get this mud cleaned up.

Admittedly it doesn’t work in a car, crowded location, or even work necessarily. Over years my impulse control and roll with the punches attitude really developed. Maybe too much, when my ex wife said she wanted a divorce it was kind of just an “ok, do you want me to move out or did you plan to? I’ll see what paperwork we need to fill out “.

I enjoy life so much more though. My dog peed in the laundry room shortly after coming inside and I remember a time when I would have been incredulous about it. My response was to chuckle and say “oh buddy you know not to pee inside”, grap a swiffer and throw the pad in the load of wash I was starting.

Maybe I just got older, life experience and all that. I do think the separation from what happened and box breathing exercise really helped me in being able to put things into context and just let life be life though.