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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/sixofemallcuteaf on 2023-10-03 01:14:55.

I have to go out of town this week so I told my husband he'll need to pick our daughter up from school and drop her off at daycare, then pick all the kids up at the end of the day.

He replied with "it would be nice to be asked, not dictated". Which honestly irritated me.

Why should I have to ask him to pick up his kids? I'm not even going to be in town. The alternative would be literally leaving our daughter at the school and our kids at daycare. There isn't even an option for him to say no to it...

Some extra info that might be helpful is that we own our own company and he's free to come and go from work whenever he needs. He sometimes scrolls instagram for 30 minutes on a "coffee" break. I never, ever, say anything about how he spends his work time.

But today I did. Because when I said why would I need to ask, he said "I have to work you know". So I told him he could take a 15 minute coffee break to pick his daughter up from school instead of scrolling instagram.

He went on to ask me if "I had a bad day" or why do I think I can just dictate to him. And he said I was being an a-hole and couldn't I just have been polite in the first place?

Which it was a text and this is it copied with only the names and location changed.

"Gonna meet PERSON in CITY Wednesday to pick up PERSON you'll need to take DAUGHTER to daycare and maybe take the kids I'll switch vehicles with you after I drop SON off at daycare."

He's convinced I'm the asshole here, tell me Redditors, Am I?