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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/crownpoly on 2023-10-03 16:16:42.
It’s been around 7 months since my father has passed away and I’m helping my mother around the house. She can’t keep up with the house herself- 4 bedroom house on 9 acres of land, so she is actively selling it.
My friends (younger couple) are the potential buyers. She signed the contract in May of this year. They originally gave her until July to find a place. But it keeps getting extended. Long story short is my friends are being very very nice. My mother already found another place.
The problem is is that she is the world’s biggest worry wort. She keeps asking for extension from buyers and bugging me about literal nonsense. For example, she told me the basement was ‘flooded’ and I needed to check it out ASAP. When I got there, there was maybe a 2 inch spot along the wall that was moisture. I fixed it.
Next she said the water had too much rust in it, so I had my plumber come out and replace the water heater and install a new water softener. Since then, she has called him 6 times about it. He basically told me that everything is fine- it is, and that he wasn’t going to be taking any more calls from her. She is stilled worried about water for some reason.
Literally the littlest thing will send her over the edge.
Here’s the kicker, the house has all inspections done. They all passed. It’s literally ready to go. However, she sees one thing wrong and calls me and freaks out about it claiming that “she doesn’t want to be sued”
I sympathize with her but my friends are getting angry and I don’t blame them. I am an only son, so I do pretty much everything myself. Anytime something significant happens, I’m usually her first call.
Couple that with 4 hours of mowing every week, on top of yard work and house work and I’m starting to get annoyed real fast. I feel like I spend more time at her house rather than my own- and I just bought a house a year ago and actually have a bunch of shit to get done.
So yeah, today after telling me the gutters were clogged- they have a leaf guard she told me that she was going to ask for another extension. I told her politely that I was going to stop helping her out.
We’ve had these talks before but she just can’t overcome her irrationality. She’s spoken to friends, family, her psychiatrist, her financial advisor, all trying to tell her that she’s in a good spot, but she just doesn’t believe it.
P.S. she is very financially stable.
P.S.S. She hates the house and has for a long time