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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Judgy_A_Hole on 2023-10-04 21:56:03.

I (32f) have been engaged to my fiancé (27m) for about a year now. We'll call him Jack for this story.

Once we got engaged, I immediately started planning.... and my family has been fighting me every step of the way.

The venue is too far. These are the venues I should be looking at. I should have this and that and this other kind of food. This is the kind of dress I should wear. Etc....

It has been a nightmare.

One morning I had gone to breakfast with my mother and grandmother, and somehow the topic of the wedding came up. My mother casually said something along the lines of a list of people she was going to invite. I put my foot down and said, "No, you're not inviting people I don't know to my wedding." Her response was, "Well, if i am helping pay for it then i will invite whoever i want."

I have not asked her to help with paying for the wedding. Jack and I had decided we would be footing the bill ourselves. I told her, "WE are paying for it, so no, you will not invite whoever you want, and most guests will not even be getting a plus one." I want a small wedding. 50/60 people is the absolute max and that is a lot. My guest list at the moment is right around that number and I'm not budging on it.

My grandmother decided to chime in and said, "Oh, you're such a b*tch," and that's where the conversation ended.

For the record, I had already added some of her close friends who I have met before on the list so she would have people to mingle with.

AITA for putting my foot down?