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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowRAnosuchthing on 2023-10-05 04:00:43.

When we were 17, my then GF(now wife) and I became parents. My family was really upset by the whole thing. When we got married, they were even more upset. To my family, my wife is nothing but a pretty face, " zero between the ears" as it was put by my oldest sister.

At the time, my wife was basically like, " If they aren't going to be happy about anything, we don't need to be around them, or speak to them". At the time, that made sense to me, I was in that same mindset.

We're both 22 and our daughter is 5. Sunday was her birthday and she got cards in the mail from my parents, and my 2 older sisters. They'd never sent cards before. She's never met them. I was shocked we got these cards.

To me it was a way of saying, " let's put the ugliness behind us, move forward". I brought up the idea to my wife that maybe, soon, we could introduce her to my family.

My wife's a hard no on this. Says that because they weren't by our side in the beginning, they don't get to be around now. I tried to pitch her on the idea that I think a little forgiveness could go a long way. She says she cant just forgive people who tried to " destroy her happiest moments".

When I asked my wife what exactly her plan is when our daughter starts getting curious about my side of the family. My wife's plan is to just paint them as cold, mean people who don't deserve to be around our daughter. She got very upset with me and felt I pushed too far on the idea of the reunion.

AITA?