I more read it implying that the barbarian was ridiculously hung, and the mere sight of it is enough to do damage. So not a dick, but his dick in particular. Which feels on brand for a barb.

While I can assume the OP wrote that with a male perspective in mind, at least in DnD, Wizard is a gender neutral class. Personally I read it as an ultra-prudish character reacting, but perhaps I'm being too charitable in my interpretation.

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Most straight women and most straight men have an alarmed and upset reaction if they see an unexpected penis while going about their day. I don’t see this as being a gendered thing at all, although some of the details of the nature of the alarm are gendered and could even involve homophobia, it’s mostly just that suddenly seeing a dick is most often a negative experience.

I literally don’t see anything about this that has to do with sexuality in any way, it feels like you’re just trying to shoehorn that in there.

Hm, good point

There's a point where the expectancy of homophobia becomes a phobia. You start to see it around every corner, take simple comments completely the wrong way, and overall cast judgement before trying to understand meaning. I understand the position you take on this and why you have come to your conclusion, but I don't believe that that's the context of the situation. I believe the size of the member in question has everything to do with it.

There are those out there that are instantly casting judgement on every conversation. The right and wrong meter fires up, and they see what they fear. They then live curled up, restrained, and tortured. They see eyes through every window, feel inferior (or worse, superior), and begin to think something is wrong with either them or everyone around them. They ruin possible relationships and become confrontational. You should live free, without fear, and put the stones down. You're going to hurt someone who didn't mean anything bad someday.

I'm with you in the fight against homophobia and transphobia, but we have to stop lashing out on suspicion. We have to really consider the following: Keeping your mind open and expecting the best in people often opens us to a better life with more opportunities. I like to try and see the best in people. I'll occasionally become disappointed when those expectations fall, but I'd rather live like that than skipping straight to disappointment without giving others a chance.

It's been a weight off my shoulders since I began to think like this. I no longer look through a window of doubt and unease at people when I meet them, I look right into the person themselves. I have seen people flinch or look away when I look them in the eye, because it's a silent confirmation- it says, I see you, and it scares them sometimes. You might be surprised at how many people in the world go unseen and unheard, even in public situations, and its shocking to them when someone really listens, tries to understand, and reciprocates.

I went off a little bit, but returning to the comment in question. I don't believe it was meant in any sort of disregard to any one walk of life. It sounds a bit to me like the commenter was describing their own painful disbelief through a random, nondescript character in a comedic and narrative way. It was in jest and made sense to them, and I can't see any confrontational evidence in the comment that states otherwise. They did not state the gender of the wizard, they did not state the orientation of the wizard, nor did they state why they took psychological damage.

We shouldn't add our own context to the story under assumption and be angry because we believe our assumption is right.

I'm sorry if I don't reply to you right away after this. I spent a lot of time and consideration on my reply, and am now way past bedtime. I'm not trying belittle your thoughts and feelings... I'm just trying to explain how I see it the best I can.