My old manager used to take his team out to a Szechuan Chinese place and order for us, family style. It was awesome.

I'm white AF and it was the first time I had actually spicy Chinese food. He'd also order a few mild dishes for the pair of no-spice folk on the team.

Thinking back, manager was a Chinese immigrant, most team mates were Indian immigrants, and the spice-free teammates were both white. (I mention immigrant because my Indian teammates with kids would complain about their American-born kids' low spice tolerance.)

I mean yes, but not in a way that's likely to result in significant harm, even in the long term. It's the kind of thing that being white myself (and having IBS on top), I would feel comfortable laughing at.

The other day was my retirement party. We went to a local Chinese place, and while all the others were getting the touristy stuff, sweet sour and mu shu, I said "smoked bean pork." The waiter looked at me like I was from Alpha Centauri, like "what's an old white guy doing ordering the good stuff?"

Not spice but caffeine. Stopped at a reservation gas station on a road trip to grab water and fuel. I walk in and the lady at the counter says that the sodas are on the far wall, I ask why she thinks I want soda and she says it's cause I'm white but definitely not any type of Mormon since I don't hold myself like them. Anyways I grab my water and fuel after that rather amusing interaction, then I go to my car and make another thing of gamersupps. She was simply wrong about my source of caffeine.

The shibboleth for getting really spicy food at a Thai placed is to order it "phed phed". Phed means spicy and in Thai you can repeat some adjectives for emphasis.

This works equally well in Touristy places in Thailand as in Thai run restaurants back home (Switzerland) in my experience.

I am so white I reflect the sun at people... I had to beg the server to give me the actual hot. The server made a point to apologize when I asked if there was a way to make it hotter... spice is life!

Those chili spice ratings on food packets and menus are always bullshit as well

Reminds me of a date with an Asian X, to a Chinese restaurant. We get seated, waitress comes by with chopsticks for my date, knife and fork for me. I shrugged, but my X went and got chopsticks from the waiting station for me cause she was pissed off at the blatant racism. I admit if the races were swapped, it'd likely get branded something like a 'micro-aggression' of racism I guess? idk.

But there are quite a few places where white folks get that sorta thing, its almost always quite benign.

I'd say yes. Yes that's racist. 

I'm over 30 of course I want mild or I'll be up with heart burn.

....I mean in my SOUL I want my early 20s blow my head off heat but my body disagrees.