Misogyny sells, apparently. Sex also sells. That is precisely why we allow everyone on the Internet and social media to post pornography. Oh, wait: we don't. If there is as much as half a nipple on display, takedowns start buzzing about, bans come down faster than lightning bolts, and you are out of an account faster than you can say Freedom of Spee...

If you can appease Moms for Jesus, you can create an environment where misogyny is not allowed. In general, we allow these algorithms to do all sorts of evil in the name of engagement, and maybe it's time to put a stop to it. Maybe, for a change, we make the corporations liable for all consequences of their algorithmic posting. They'd pay more attention to what they push.

Abhorrent to hear such a young person having to deal with this. It gets easier as you grow older, but it never stops being a vile state of things. Nobody should have to grow 'thick skin' to just participate, as wonderful aspects of their personality can die with it.

The gut reaction is to point to the easy and straightforward option, to just leave. But in the end this doesn't solve anything. This is exactly how many safe spaces die, on top of it blaming victims. Once abusers are let in and tolerated, the victims will start leaving if they can. And eventually, the space is no longer that of the victims, but that of the abusers. This happens with nazis at a bar, smokers at restaurants, assholes on the road, unruly people in the train. It leads to a society where everyone nice just sits at home because that's ultimately the last safe place left.

The hard truth is that the group that doesn't take a stand and accepts in the abusers, is the only place we can look at for a solution. But there's no easy way to get to them often. If they let it get this far, it's essentially pointless. (The big social media platforms for sure). I think the only real alternative is to build alternative safe places. Reach out to friends and other victims. Let them know there is another place where they can actually feel safe. But it will be hard and grueling. At first it might seem like you are alone, that nobody shares your grievances. But it takes time. Years even. You might get assholes trying to get in anyways, that have to be harshly rejected to keep the spirit alive. You might get sabotaged from outside. It's tough - but as far as solutions go, it's a real one.

I consider Lemmy one of these places. And I think it's very important for anyone to realize they're in a community built on those grounds. It must always be protected with full force. From the smallest friend group, to the biggest of governments. Even when that's hard to do.

I have been online since the 90s in mostly gaming spaces. Misogyny and racism feels like the default state.

Spaces that are able to rise out of that are exceptional.

I think this is some intergenerational religious byproduct. Agree, women/men can fuck about as much as they want and it shouldn't be degrading. Enjoy your body/life. Yolo

Getting glad I never tried out Instagram. I can see where these 'ban social media' people are coming from if these are the platforms they're looking at, I've never seen anything nearly as bad on the platforms I use (and a most of the bad stuff I see is heavily downvoted and argued against anyways). I guess if I went to r/conservative or started watching Asmongold videos on Youtube or something I would probably see some pretty terrible stuff, but Reddit and Youtube both keep me pretty separated from their bad sides.

It baffles me to whine about the disgusting shit on short form video pop app for kids and then say this is what I use for Social media. How about not doing that? did you try to not do that? perhaps your problem is the doing of that and the Solution is to not do that?

Imagine if TikTok automatically tagged all content with #misogyny, #racism, #sexism and so on. And then published monthly reports on society trends. Like "In Feb 2026 racism went down 12%, misogyny went up 5%". I think it would be incredibly insightful and helpful.

While article tries to promote social media ban for under 16s, I strongly believe its just a way to sweep the problem under the rug. I think much more reasonable approach is to recognize those trends and deal with them through education and better parenting.

If anyone uses the word "female" to refer to women/girls, they instantly disqualify themselves from any right to be taken serious. Those people need a psychotherapist.