I run a k3s Kubernetes cluster on a single KVM host(multiple VMs). Honestly I do not care a single f*ck about that machine nor k3s itself. I update once a year, do not have any documentation written nor IaC somewhere. I always forget how I configured the networking stuff for example. But that machine runs my critical services flawlessly without a single crash in like 3 years. So no I cannot relate.

Wait so it's not just that my vps only has 1gb of ram?

You guys with more ram still get crashes?

This is Seafile for me. Definitely not the "set it and forget it" Google Drive alternative I was hoping for. Thank goodness I have Syncthing backing up important files, but sharing with friends and family is a nuisance.

The simple fix is to not use nextcloud

What we need is something that is a) Private (not saying nc isn't) b) Independent of any judicial government c) P2P and ultra redundant d) Run by a true non-profit (not like openAI) e) Massively distributed, process wise and storage wise f) OS independent, written in pure C or Rust.

Take that as you want but a vast majority of the complaints I hear about nextcloud are from people running it through docker.

I don't, because I switch it with something better if something like that happens.