None of those people have a slightest clue. Your options really are: ubuntu vanilla and maybe pop os.
Everything else will very quickly require you to read through some obscure docs and bash your head against the terminal.
Vanilla Ubuntu, not kubuntu/xubuntu/whateverbuntu is the only polished and documented distro. After a year or two of that you'll be ready to consider this "what distro" question.
Go with EndeavourOS. It won’t “just work”, but it will be the best compromise between confusing abstraction and low level frustrations.
Fedora is good but it abstracts a little too much away, this is great when you understand how software works, but it’s very confusing when you’re new to Linux and programming.
Arch is good, but you won’t be able to hid the ground running, you’d have to sacrifice a weekend to learn.
Go:
Tinkering with those in that order, after about 6 months, you’ll start to feel at home.
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