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So much work I underestimated it. Currently Petting dry wall on the walls, just looking at what is still not done yet and thinking about all the finishing with filling up the walls, screws, sanding, painting and then the floor has to be Sand and put in snd doors.

Im dead til I make this house livable. The only good thing is I have no rent costs til its done and live at my parents house

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[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 21 points 9 months ago

Don't focus on the end of the job. Just focus on today's tasks, and allow yourself to feel accomplishment.

The feeling of accomplishment doesn't come from reaching the goal here, it comes from reaching one of your objectives.

Your feelings are not a pure function of your experiences. You can choose when to indulge in feelings. My advice here is to choose to indulge in some self satisfaction each time you reach a small milestone. Each time you put in a couple hours' solid work, no matter how far or short you seem to progress, that's a couple of hours that needed to be done and are now behind you.

You're doing a good job! You're making a home for yourself, by the sweat of your own brow. You deserve to feel proud of yourself. Not just at the end of the project, but at the end of each work day.

[-] maiskanzler@feddit.de 19 points 9 months ago

Take it one step at a time and don't look to far ahead.

[-] SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

It’s like eating an elephant, it looks like a lot but if you do it one steak at a time it’s manageable.

[-] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 11 points 9 months ago

Petting dry wall

Who's a good plank? You are! You are!

[-] Blaze@reddthat.com 10 points 9 months ago

Stay strong. I know someone who built his house, nothing went according to plan.

He's still very happy now, but that was a hell of a ride

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 7 points 9 months ago

Are you building it on your own? Houses take a while if you're doing that. There's a local celebrity near where I used to live who is famous for nothing more than taking more than fifty years to build a tiny log cabin. It's become like a meme there.

[-] Num10ck@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

sounds like you need a better soundtrack. few people see the tangible results of their hard work.

[-] Octospider@kbin.social 6 points 9 months ago

Well, if it's your house, just know that many many people would consider themselves very lucky to be in your position. That may help keep things in perspective.

[-] Roderik@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

First and foremost, I want you to know I am proud of you for taking on this adventure.

Building a house is no small feat, and yes, it will take time. Though it's not like you're sitting still—you're proactive. Every day you are getting closer to your goal. Don't give up and hang in there! We believe in you!

[-] Hyperreality@kbin.social 6 points 9 months ago

Listen to music, audiobooks and/or podcasts. Hard labour is hard. Distract yourself.

[-] Mr_Blott@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

Yep, can recommend Prohear Bluetooth ear defenders. Peltor make them too, but pricey

[-] can@sh.itjust.works 2 points 9 months ago

Hard to put a price on hearing. That shit never comes back.

[-] Mr_Blott@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago

That's precisely why the Peltor ones are more expensive. They actually sound worse and the protection is no better. Needless to say, no surprises which country Peltor is from 🙄

[-] usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca 1 points 9 months ago

I'm a fan of just using my earbuds inside a good pair of ear muffs; better noise reduction that way, and sometimes you want the muffs off but can still listen to whatever.

[-] Hyperreality@kbin.social 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

IME what works best is sound deadening foam ear plugs, with an over ear headphone with the volume turned up. You know, big ones with passive noise cancelling.

Cheap and if anything seems to work better than bluetooth ear defenders. (for me).

[-] IWantToFuckSpez@kbin.social 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Baby steps. Don’t look too far ahead or else you get mad. Make a backlog and only take things out of the backlog and plan for work you can realistically finish in the next two weeks ahead. Then only focus on those tasks for those two weeks and don’t get distracted by all the other things that need to be done. Remember it’s a marathon don’t burn yourself out.

[-] spongebue@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

Found the scrum master

[-] FollyDolly@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

My husband and I built our own home as well. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. We picked rocks and poured our own concrete foundations with a shitty harbor freight cement mixer. At times I thought I was going to lose my mind, but we did it. Podcasts saved me. I would set up my work area for the day, pick a pocast and let my mind wander while I put up yet another peice of drywall.

Hang in there. In my darkest moments I had to remind myself that every action was a step forward. Even just running to the hardware store. It is all a step forward. One step at a time, one day at a time. We did it, and you can do it too. I'm rooting for you buddy! It does get better!

[-] Blackout@kbin.social 4 points 9 months ago

If so far your only issue is the work ahead then at least you are doing it right. My parents have a neighbor doing the same thing on land that was practically a swamp before. Guess who didn't do proper water management before getting all their lumber delivered and dug and poured the foundation, those people SMH.

[-] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 3 points 9 months ago

I feel you. Did a full bathroom remodel a few years back and even though it's a tiny space it still took me almost a year to finish. Not that I was working on it for a year but after a certain point I just couldn't get myself to proceed with it.

In my opinion it's good to have a couple different tasks started at the same time so you can choose which one you most feel like working on today. It shouldn't really matter what you do as long as you keep moving. It'll be ready one day.

[-] pelletbucket@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago

you've got to celebrate every little achievement. mentally break the project into bite-sized pieces

[-] Deceptichum@sh.itjust.works 1 points 9 months ago
[-] teamevil@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

Holy shit...thank you for this. Load bearing drywall is amazing.

[-] HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 months ago

Got a good example?

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