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Maybe find another student and gift something together.
I live in a trashy society and my friends are a gr8 example, if they even catch a snitch, next day is gonna be like ‘Oooooh he loves his teacher ooooooh’
"I live in a trashy society" don't we all brother
More seriously, you got great advices in the thread, esp the pen and the muffins. You can offer sweets without having it mistaken as a romantic gestures, it then depends on the sweets you offer. A box of chocolates intent can easily be misconstrued, a box of donuts/muffins, much less so. Except if said muffins have hearts on them, it's all about context.
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In my culture It'd be the other way around. Perfume could be romantic or mean 'you smell'. Chocolade, self-made cake of muffins would be alright. Or something individual, a drawing if you can do it, a nice 3d print or whatever creative hobbies you have. Yeah and somebody said a book. Lots of teachers like to read, and you know what stuff they're interested in... It's probably what they chose to teach. Or just say thank you, you helped me a lot and influenced my life for the better.... You could also instead write it down on a nice card.
As a teacher, I'd say a card as someone already suggested, or a book with a thank you inscription
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Why not go with the classic: An apple.
So I have seen this but idk what it is referring to
It’s a common trope, in the US at least. The gift can be different in different countries. In the Philippines other local-made snacks might be brought for teachers.
Oh, didn’t know about, kinda weird
Kids gave apples because apples were free: on the way to school, you could pass an apple tree and pick an apple.
Now we’ve made the world where Nothing Ever Happens, and that includes both kids walking to school and apple trees growing anywhere.
Supposedly it comes from apples being an abundant source of food/water during periods when teachers weren't paid in money. Also it can be made into alcohol easily. Potatoes were also popular for the same reasons but that didn't stick as well.
So modern equivalent is probably chocolates with booze in them.
Teachers are famously scared of doctors.
Eh, muffins and a card would probably work lol.
‘Good Morning, Thanks for your help throughout the session, here are some muffins’
But this could work ig, muffins are delicious and probably the simplest thing so I don’t think it’s gonna get mistaken
The thing that you wrote in your first post on this topic is what she needs to hear. Not:
thanks for your help throughout the session
but more like:
Nobody else has been there for me this past year and I was headed down a dark and miserable path but your being here this year helped me feel that I was someone worth putting effort into. You have given me a gift that I will never forget.
That is the best gift you can give your teacher.
You keep trying to put the value in some material gift but those words are what she’s going to value.
I’m just going to say this: if you give her a card that says “Thanks for your help this session” you will have missed a beautiful opportunity. DO NOT give her that generic “thanks” message.
I was the guy who warned you about the chocolate being interpreted as romantic. But a far worse danger is going through life missing the opportunities to create beauty.
You have an opportunity to create something beautiful and meaningful for this teacher, and you’ll only achieve that by articulating exactly how she helped you.
Believe me when I say that, for adults, meaning is the thing we crave and lack in our life. Muffins can be obtained at the grocery store. A true, well-articulated and vulnerable communication of the way one has had a positive impact in another person’s life is a treat most people hear maybe once or never in their lives.
I know it’s hard. But you did a good job of explaining her positive impact in your original post. All you need to do is re-state that while addressing her in a note, instead of us.
Thanks a lot! I recently woke up from my sleep, and your point makes a lot sense, me trying to present my appreciation through something materialistic isn’t gonna work, instead of that, I should start trying to draft my card, which is both somewhat formal and gets what I am trying to say across
Exactly. Not many people use a batch of blueberry muffins as a romantic gesture but it still gets the intended point across and shows that you're grateful.
Yeah, I feel like it’s better than a pen, but I gotta find a way to preserve it in my bag for about 4hrs, assuming I am able to get them in the morning, during exams teachers are quite busy in the morning, It would probably not go bad but I feel like muffins taste best when they are warm and fresh, even after a day I feel like they are not quite as good
It depends on the recipe. My mom's muffins taste good even when they've been cold for a few days so they're a really good leftover food.
Chocolate is better than perfume for sure! But personally, I feel that it really doesn't matter. It's more about the way you give it and what you say /write along with the gift. Not knowing about anything that had gone on, I wouldn't be worried about it being misunderstood
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Pretty sure just going downtown on the teacher is gonna come across as romantic
this post was submitted on 17 Feb 2024
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