To answer any of your questions we'd need to know what 7 way plug kit you got. Depending on the type of auto reset it can be minutes before reset, seconds, or it might stay disconnected until power is cycled.
Frankly I think you're overblowing the risks in all scenarios here. If you have a short in your brake circuit that blows a breaker, they're not going to work anyway regardless of what kind of breakers you're using. Auto reset breakers aren't going to fry your trucks electronics, nor should a short, because you should also have a sensible fuse on the circuit (unless you hooked up directly to your battery you probably do).