I'm locking this thread, as I can envision this going south very quickly. Remember to be(e) nice.

I want to keep this space as one where people can be free to vent. That being said, I'm honestly kind of loath to encourage fedi drama from other instances leaking over here. I'm not saying you can't vent about other instances, but I don't intend for this to become Subreddit Drama.

Anyway, OP, after reading through everything, you're coming off as needlessly hostile. I don't think that's how you meant to be, but that's what you appear to be. If you see someone who mentions that they don't have it in them to follow politics, you shouldn't be pushing back on that unless it's clear they're doing so in bad faith. As someone who does follow politics, it can get depressing. It can be bleak. And it can get overwhelming. If you are able to power through that, great! It helps. But not everybody can read about how the right is planning to genocide us. I guarantee that there are trans people who have taken their own lives over this. I guarantee it. Your demand that people refrain from saying they don't follow politics is deeply, deeply misguiding. It isn't your place to determine what people can and can't do. And that's exactly what you sound like. Also, it looks like you got banned for a flippant, ableist comment. Suffice it to say that I won't tolerate that here. Be(e) nice.

Potentially relevant information from the other individual this person was arguing with:

Hey, Abigail here. I just want people to know the reason this guy got banned is likely because of a deleted comment not included in that thread. OP called me autistic for not liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone, so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay.

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669

Tough to confirm from the modlogs as blahaj.zone appears to be having some intermittent outages.

yeah having read the thread, i'm inclined to agree you come across as someone trying to pick a fight, when you have a semantic disagreement with them at most

i understand that you found what they wrote triggering and harmful, but i don't think you were very kind with your posts. i feel like, in your haste to protect trans people, you were not considerate of the human being you were actually speaking to

i know you're not a member of beehaw, but you're posting it to our instance, so that's the standard i'm applying

if you had empathized with them (her?) that they sometimes need a space where they can just be a person, instead of being trans (or a woman or however abigail identifies), they (she?) might have been more receptive to your point

it also would have helped if you had been direct to the point - for example: "hey, would you mind saying "i don't like debates around my fundamental rights to exist" (or whatever alternative) as opposed to saying "i don't like politics"? this way you still allow space for discussion of important matters related to human rights, while clearly communicating what it is you dislike" (this is my best understanding of your point, but hopefully you can see how to tailor it to better represent what you truly want to express)

as it is, you spent like five posts nitpicking semantics when you knew what was intended and could have just directly stated what you disagreed with

and if you didn't know, well... i guess this is a reminder that words don't mean the same thing to everyone, and your definitions aren't necessarily more valid than someone else's

ultimately, you were argumentative with someone who was absolutely not advocating for transphobia, and policing someone's language without even making the barest effort to engage with what they were actually saying. in both the original poster's position, and in the admin's position, i completely get why they reacted how they did

i don't personally agree with your point, but i hope these recommendations help you more clearly communicate it, and foster healthier interactions about it, in the future

Hatred of politics is a transphobic, sexist, and racist trope

No it isn't. You're just a butthole that tries to use the Transphobia label as a weapon against anyone you disagree with. Ada was right to ban you.

You don't get to define what people do or do not like. If someone says they hate politics, your only choice is to believe them until they give you reason to believe that they are lying, that or be a butthole. It appears that you chose to be a butthole.

Hatred of politics is a transphobic, sexist, and racist trope.

This is the dumbest take I've ever seen. I've also seen comments from your previous account and understand why you were banned. It was well deserved, yet here you are doubling down having learned absolutely nothing.

I mean I get it; being queer is exhausting, and sometimes you just want to take a break from ... all of that ... and look at cat pics.

That said queer identities are indeed inherently political, and I don't think you can reasonably achieve a goal of "no politics," especially in queer spaces. I agree that saying "no politics" is basically the same as saying "no politics I disagree with," and at least she was honest about that. But I don't think it's generally a very achievable goal. Like, as long as identity is political, there will be politics in every space. You can intentionally ignore it to have a good time or do other things, but it's not like it isn't there.

Sorry this all happened to you. If you want another queer-aligned instance that's much smaller, I host https://lib.lgbt, feel free to check us out!

What was your old username? Would be helpful to look you up in the modlogs

Tbh blahaj seems to be getting more and more toxic over time. I wouldn't be surprised if this due to other users.

I obviously don't expect every instance to have the same rules as heehaw but it's odd to see people engaging in bad behavior on the trans instance of all things