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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Djivee on 2023-09-17 09:02:24.

For Context, I (16 male) come from a poor single-mother household with two younger siblings. Let’s call them Davion (13 male) and Jayda (11 female).

Jayda and Davion are very irresponsible and destructive, (Davion more so than Jayda) with everything they touch, and the worst part about that is they don’t care because they know our mother will defend them and make my belongings the scapegoat.

For example, we recently lived in a shitty apartment and everyone slept on air mattresses. My mother had one for her and her boyfriend at the time, I had my own, and my siblings had to share an air mattress. We went through at least 4 air mattresses because my siblings kept putting holes in theirs and each time I had to share mine which was very aggravating and frustrating. I don’t care how cold it sounds, they should’ve had to sleep on the floor and I guarantee that would’ve taught them to be more responsible. However, this kept going on till Davion and Jayda put a hole in my air mattress and my mom’s boyfriend gave me one of his that he stored at his parent’s house.

During that time, my mother bought Davion and Jayda and new air mattress, and by now you should know how that story went. They punctured both mine — the mattress my mom’s bf gave me — and their air mattress. This really pissed me off, so I confronted my mom about it and she said “You need to stop being so damn selfish and stop always thinking about you, I’m not letting my kids sleep on the floor”.... Of course this was the answer I was expecting, so I didn’t press the issue.

Fast forward to now, we live in a much better apartment and my mom is doing better financially. Other than that, everything is still the same. Recently, Davion broke my mother’s tv and instead of punishing him, she took their tv and put it in her room and told me that I would have to let him and my sister use my tv whenever they wanted to. That was my final straw, I told her “No ma’am, I’m not doing that and they can sit and stare at the wall for all I care. You always make me share what I got because they can’t take care of anything you give them.” and as expected she gave me the usual “You’re so selfish and self-centered lecture” and she sprinkled in the “I bought it so it’s mine.”

I said, “Okay then, take the tv and I'll get my own…” I did, and that seemed to have angered my mom even more, with her saying “You just think you’re better than everybody” and I said “Nah, I’m just better than your other two kids” and that cut her deep. I can tell from the look she gave me and how angrily she yelled at me afterward. But I didn’t care, it felt good to say and I got a brand new tv so it’s a win-win for me. Hopefully, now, she’ll make my siblings be responsible because she knows my belongings are off the table.