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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwaway38028 on 2023-09-18 15:40:01.

I'm 26 and my wife is 25. I've never really wanted kids my wife always said she didn't either, so she was on the pill for most of our relationship.

almost a year ago she told me she was pregnant, we did talk about the idea of an abortion but she said she can't because her parents wouldn't be happy. Then she told me that I should propose because it was wrong if we weren't married when our kid was born. I didn't really want to get married until we were more financially stable but it was really bothering her that we weren't married so I proposed and we got married about 9 months ago.

my son was born 2 ½ months ago and I wish I could say I love him but since he was born everything has just gotten so much worse. He's always crying, I've barely been sleeping and my wife isn't helping at all. I asked her to help but she said she's still recovering from the birth.

I've started to resent her and my son and i feel really shitty for it. I just have no love for my son at all, I just do not care about him at all and I know that makes me a really awful person and I wish I cared about him but I just really don't.

I'm just so tired of life. I can't take care of a kid that I don't want on my own.

AITA?

edit: I don't blame by son at all he is a baby he can't do anything wrong. I don't really blame my wife either, it takes two people to make a kid so this is equally my fault. sorry if I came off like I was blaming them