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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Stunning_Shelter6671 on 2023-09-19 14:44:15.

My parents divorced when I was a baby and my dad met Janet when I was 5. I met her a year or two later. I lost my mom not long after I met Janet. She and my dad quickly got engaged and married. I have two half siblings from them. I see my maternal family occasionally but we're close. I love my half siblings too. Janet I'm very meh about.

So my mom's family make this specific cake for everyone in the family's birthday. I learned how to make it when mom was still alive and the two of us would make it for my birthday and hers. After she died my grandparents would make it for me and I'd help them make it for others in the family whenever I was with them.

For some reason dad mentioned the cake to Janet a couple of years ago and then they told my half siblings about it. My half siblings wondered if it was the same kind of cakes they got and Janet was like no, it's a special one and we don't know what it is. My half siblings have asked on and off for the cake ever since and have been upset some birthdays when they ask if it's the one and Janet or my dad tell them no.

There has been some pressure on me, mostly from Janet but some from my dad, to make the cake for my half siblings birthdays from here out. I have refused to do so because it's something for my maternal side I feel like and it's not like my half siblings don't get cake. They just don't get the cake I get from my maternal family.

Janet said I either love my siblings or I don't but I can't love them and not include them in something I love so much. She said I am showing my siblings I don't want them to be my siblings really. My dad said it would be such a loving thing to do. And that my siblings would think I hung the moon and stars if I included them in something like that.

I told him and Janet to create their own recipe or to find one and use that as this family tradition.

But they say I should be willing to make this specific cake for my siblings.

AITA?