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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/XxDeathReaper420xX on 2023-09-19 19:31:44.

For a bit of backstory, my girlfriend (19f) and I (21m) had an apartment together and she had recently quit her job and stopped going to college because she was feeling too stressed. I constantly told her not to do it and how it would be selfish of her to do so when we have bills to pay. But she ignored what I said and stopped going to both anyways. Meanwhile I am a blue collar worker and have been working nonstop 12 hour shifts 5 days a week to put a roof over our head. I rightfully got a bit upset at her when I found this news out but ultimately decided I’d try to work this out with her. I told her if she was going to stay home without a job or going to college that she must take care of the household chores while I’m gone and put in job applications.

She had agreed with me after a bit of talking and after the first few days it was going decent. She would cook meals for me, take care of the house, and she had even put in a few job applications to some local retail stores. But after about a week of this she got lazy, I’d come home and see dirty laundry, piles of dishes, she began to cook only for herself, and on top of all this, she still had not found a job. I confronted her about this and she began telling me the same story that she’s depressed which made me a bit annoyed with her. I told her that I am depressed too but I still clock into work 12 hours a day, 5 days of the week. I said to her that the least she can do is some housework and that regardless if she is sad or not she’s an adult and needs to act like one. So she agreed to what I had said and she started taking care of things again. It wasn’t long until she went back to her ways and one day I came home to see her still asleep at 4PM and the house was a mess, no laundry was done, clothes were scattered on our floor, no dishes done, our plants weren’t watered, nothing was made for dinner, and she had water bottles and food everywhere. I woke her up and told her that if she’s going to disrespect me like this while I provide for her that she needs to leave.

She started begging me to let her stay and I felt a bit sad but I ultimately stood by my words. I felt bad about kicking her out on her own, so I called up her parents whom I have a pretty good relationship with and told them the situation. I worked out a deal with them and they agreed to have my girlfriend move back into their house, I told my girlfriend that if she wanted to get back together she’s going to need to do the right thing and get a job. I helped her move her things into her parents place and said my goodbyes to her. Fast forward nearly a month later and I hear from her parents that she is still unemployed. I felt a bit sad hearing that, but she’s an adult and at the end of the day she needs to fulfill her role. I’m just one person and I’m at a stage in my life where I can’t provide for two.