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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Fit-Comedian-7640 on 2023-09-21 15:20:53.

EDIT: for a birthday I am NOT* invited to

I (F27) live with my boyfriend in an apartment.

Last week he told me excitedly that he was invited to our neighbours (M80) birthday reception. I understood I was not invited. This was confirmed as he forwarded me the invitation that he had received from our neighbour. I don’t know why he sent me this.

I thought it was weird but I didn’t express it. Then my boyfriend asked me to think about what he should gift him. This question annoyed me. Since I am not invited to the reception, I don’t want the mental duty of thinking of a proper gift. I ignored the question.

My boyfriend has lived in the apartment for 2 years and I moved in this february. He is way more extroverted than I am and chats with the neighbours a few times a week. I speak to them sometimes, but not a lot.

Last night he asked me again to think about what he should gift them. I told him I didn’t want to help him with a gift for a reception that he, our neighbours and several other people in the building will be attending, while I am left alone at home. I was annoyed and upset.

My boyfriend argued that it makes sense since I don’t seek a relation with them. He pointed out that the neighbours have invited us over for a glass of wine several times (by mail to my bf), which I have never attended. Although I admit I have never been eager to join them, I have never delined these invitations. My boyfriend has declined on my behalf, without asking me if I’d like to come first. He has gone without me a few times before I moved in and one time while I have been living here, while I was out with friends.

My boyfriend does not understand where I am coming from. He does not understand that I think it’s weird that our neighbours only invited him, since I don’t talk much to them and his request with the gift was just if I had something at the top of mind, which makes it a fair request, according to him. He thinks I am being overly sensitive.

So, AITA for being upset about not being invited to the reception and my boyfriends request for help with the gift?

I am genuinely curious to know if it is just me who find this situation odd