I’ve been trying to practice compassion for the people that piss me off. Trying to remember that folks are all doing their best and may be dealing with even more stress and anxiety than I am dealing with.

The other thing that has really helped me is deliberately practicing gratitude for all of the great things in my life. Family, pets, health, food, shelter, car that works reliably, etc. it’s counterintuitive that focusing on these will help, but focusing on these things makes the things hat anger me seem so much less important.

It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety, too, if you're on a "hair trigger" with your emotions. Some self care and/or therapy may help with some of it, but you sound like you're on the right track already. Try to be aware of when you feel that way, try to identify why the situation makes you feel that way, ask yourself what you can do in that situation too change anything, and try to view the situation from other perspectives (doesn't have to be from the perspective of the person making you angry, but can be a stranger viewing the situation from the outside).

Best of luck to you! And keep in mind that by just wanting to improve yourself in this way, you're already take a step more than most people!

Have you tried cynicism?

Cynicism is expecting the plumber to screw you over and being pleasantly surprised when they don't

Same here. Earbuds. Grey Rock Method.

There is only one way to effectively get bullies to stop, and it's not good for your continued employment. I recommend seeking a new job and reporting your issues to someone in charge. At least those are some productive actions you can (legally) take.

I mean with the plumber your the customer so, ya know, use a different plumber or if its something simple like a faucet you can get a home depot book or use the internet and do it yourself. Like replacing a p-trap or a toilet flusher is dead simple. If its in the wall though then you have to start being a bit at a higher level. I honestly have never had something like a tv repaired. I might unscrew the back and see if anything is obviously wrong and then likely get a new one. I agree with the work thing. If its non work related I would just say I need to conecentrate as im having a problem with x project and Im trying a different approach or something.

In my experience you're describing loneliness and perhaps depression. These are not easy things to overcome, but they are universal.

Our society is well equipped to deal with broken bones, much less than its ability to mend hearts and minds.

Walking and sunlight are relatively easy circuit breakers, talking might be a little harder to find, but asking here is a good start.

If you have the financial means or employer support, it can be extremely helpful to speak with a psychologist, but just like plumbers, there are bad ones, good ones and great ones, so don't hesitate to try a few different people on for size.

Reacting in anger gets easier the more you do it, the same is true for reacting with grace, but you have to practise to get better at it. Take an extra breath before opening your mouth is one way to get started.

Finally, find fun, watch a flashmob or a funny song on YouTube, dance, be silly. It's hard to be angry whilst you're smiling.

Good luck.

I don't know if you agree with this sentence: A person who yells does it because he doesn't have power to modify a situation to his advantage, because he is powerless.

kinda, but speaking form experience it is not healthy and puts strain on relationships.

Therapy and meds have helped (and a dash of cannabis and psilocybin)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/acceptance-and-commitment-therapy

It's stood up to scrutiny as a therapeutic tool from several meta-analyses.