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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Imaginary_Series7887 on 2023-09-22 03:05:24.

My distant cousin (who I’m not close with) is having a unisex baby shower at my aunts house where she is charging $30 a person to attend. It’s at their house and she’s choosing to have it catered. I do not want to pay $60 to attend a baby shower I’m also expected to bring a gift to.

I have hosted many parties at my home and have never charged people for the food that I’ve served or the alcohol that I’ve purchased.

Not only is it a stipulation, they are hounding people for it.

AITA for thinking this is odd, or not wanting to pay?

I should ETA She's the one pregnant, and also she attended my baby shower recently and although she didn't bring a gift she did hand me a $50 bill before she left! I appreciate it but it feels like an afterthought

We're not close at all didn't grow up around each other and have nothing in common but we always try to support ea others events but it's sometimes awkward around them...

So I feel bad not attending but also, it just rubs me wrong to be charged to attend a baby shower. I RSVPd before realizing the fee and now they're sending out mass inboxes not to forget the $30. Me and my girlfriend were invited to attend so it's $60