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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Unlucky-Substance202 on 2023-09-22 02:10:57.

TLDR is basically just the title.

My (M41) wife Jane* turns 40 in November. A few years ago for her birthday I bought her a pair of AirPod Pros since she needed new headphones. I've got a set and she borrowed them a lot, so I knew she'd use them. She loved them. She takes good care of her things but since then hers have started acting up/glitching, and also losing battery quickly. I know it frustrates her. Mine don't have these issues, but they're obviously not brand new as I've had them for a couple years.

I have the opportunity to get a new pair for free through my job. I have no need of a new set but why pass up the opportunity? And since her birthday is right around the corner, I'm planning to give her my old set.

I want to clarify that I am not planning on only giving her a pair of used headphones. I've got three or four other gifts, that I'm sure she will love. That being said I worry that she'll see me giving her my old pair as hand-me-downs or as me splurging on myself instead of on her. I wouldn't be surprised since I myself might feel a bit of resentment if someone bought themselves a new item and gifted me the old one. I don't want to pass on the opportunity to get a new pair for free, and I also don't want to toss out my current pair, and I'm sure it sounds selfish but I want a new pair for myself, not get a new pair and give it away.

So I guess my question is, would it make me the asshole if I gave her my current (used) pair while keeping the new pair for myself?