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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwaway852196362 on 2023-09-22 16:34:48.

I(F/32) and my husband (M/34) have been married for about 4 years. We met 8 years ago and fell in love quite instantly, it’s been a hectic ride but we’ve come so far and I love him with all my heart. We are both born and raised in the UK but my husbands parents are both from Somalia and came here as refugees before my husband was born. They are traditional Muslim and most of his siblings are as well. My husband is not religious. It was a hassle when we dated and his parents didn’t know about me for a while. I fell pregnant when we had dated for 2 years and now have a beautiful daughter who’s turning 6 in December. This led his family to be a bit more accepting of me and eventually we married. I don’t have a very close relationship with the family but they accept me well enough and adore our daughter.

My husband visits his remaining family in Somalia every now and then. Last time was once in our early stages of dating. And now the family is planning yet another trip. And he wants my daughter and me to come. I was hesitant. Mostly because of the safety concerns. It’s quite unstable territory where his family lives. He assures me that media makes it worse than it is and that we will be perfectly fine. Even so… I’m especially concerned for my daughter. I know FGM is widespread there and while I would keep my eye on her like a hawk I’m still concerned something could happen. My husband became annoyed and told me nothing would happen and that our daughter deserves to see where she’s from. I agree- when she is older. Let her see her culture through her family in the safety of home all she wants, but I’m hesitant placing myself and my child in a conflict area. He’s angry with me about this, i can tell. I’m sure we’ll figure it out but… am I being overly cautious here?