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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Decent-Return8099 on 2023-09-23 13:31:45.
My parents have been married for 30 years. I (26f) am their only child together. My dad has two adult kids from his first marriage. Both my half siblings are in their late 30s. My mom has always tried to be seen as a parent and a second mom to my half siblings, who lost their mom when they were small kids. They never accepted or wanted my mom and it broke her heart. I watched it happen over and over again when I was a child. She was a good mom to me when I was little and she was there for me. But I always knew her heart was breaking when it came to my half siblings.
Over the years it got a little worse when my half siblings both had children with their spouses. My mom is not grandma or stepgrandma to those kids. She's just lady grandpa is married to. My mom has broken down and I have supported her so many times.
I had my first child this summer and I thought it might help my mom. She would finally have a grandchild and could pour her love into him. But she wasn't there for me or him like she wanted to be there for my half siblings and their kids.
A few days ago my half brother told my mom she would be the last person they would let babysit the kids for them. They were struggling to find someone and mom offered. She came over to me and started crying about being rejected by kids and grandkids and how hard it was for her to love them all so much and want to be part of their lives but to be kept at a distance and told they don't even want to use you for free babysitting.
She never asked about me or my son. She just came to lean on me again and I was dealing with my son struggling with sleep. I was already tired and feeling kind of drained and to hear that she offered my half brother help when she knew the struggles my husband and I were having with our son and never offered us help. I couldn't deal with it. I told her I did not want to hear it and she needed to leave because I am tired of always hearing about how much she wants their love and acceptance when she has a child and grandchild who would love to have her around. She cried even harder and I told her I could not deal with her and made sure she left.
Afterward my dad said I had been totally harsh and claimed my mom was distraught when she got home. He said I should have supported her like I always do.
AITA?