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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/onetymemore on 2023-09-23 18:21:43.

I(24f) seem to ALWAYS be the one my family will dump their kids on at events. It was annoying as a teen because I'd go with my parents and was kind of stuck there. But now, I will just leave when I please. I'll pop out and get something, come back or just leave and go home whenever I want. I don't mind watching kids but I hate them being dumped on me and it just being expected(I've told them this). They've gotten upset that I can just up and leave when I want and do it. I'll just say "going out, be back in like 30 minutes" and walk out. Or i'll just simply say "I'm not watching kids" but they'll still leave them around me.

A couple of weeks ago it my grandmother's birthday. She always has everyone come over and it is usually a fun time. I like my family and like seeing my grandma. Shortly before her birthday I was skiing with friends, fell weird, and broke my foot. Not a big deal. I just wear a cast and can't really run around or move much. To note, I was walking on crutches while visiting my grandmother.

So even before I arrive I get texts like "when will you be coming?" "are you on your way?" I showed up and when I walked in the house on crutches, majority of my family was like "what happened?" and asking if I was okay. But a few of them rolled their eyes and got upset that I couldn't watch kids. I saw them angrily put wine away and get upset that they couldn't get tipsy/drunk. A couple of people had to work and couldn't come but they dropped off their kids and they were trying to say. "Now we'll have to call (X) at work and tell them to pick up their kids." I told them I didn't plan to break my foot and that I told them before that they shouldn't count on me for that. They said "you could have warned us." I said "I warned you when I said a while ago and repeatedly to not count on me for that."

They think I was being an asshole but I don't think that at all.