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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Full_Money_5819 on 2023-09-25 05:56:50.
No I really don't. However I could not afford a house as great as mine if I got divorced. If you are willing to pay for the divorce and the house please let me know.
I have been happily married for five years. Twenty two years total. I work out of town for two weeks at a time and then home for one. Because of this I ask my wife who works part time as a substitute teacher to take care of running errands for me that I am unable to complete due to not being in the city.
In the past I have tried on multiple occasions just to take care of everything myself and it had lead to fights. She gets upset that I spend my entire week home doing all the things she said she could do for me. So I try it. I ask her to take care of certain errands for me. And then they do not get done. Then I am scrambling to fit them into my schedule. And then the cycle starts again.
We own a very nice house that neither of us could afford to replace. Housing in our city has gone nuts.
If we do the right thing I will spend my week off on vacation and she will be homeless. So recently I have come up with a solution. I hired a personal assistant sort of. I pay a girl to do all my errands. She doesn't ever complain and everything is done on schedule.
My wife is bitching about the expense, which I cover completely out of my budget. I literally gave up a hobby to pay for this girl. I have all the free time for rest on my week off and my wife doesn't have to get up off her ass to do anything.
She says she's m the asshole for not trusting her for the nth time. I think that I am happy having all of my week off to actually rest and relax before I go back to work.
To be clear I work roughly 189 hours in my two weeks of work. So almost 90 hours a week when I'm working. If you split it up for to the three weeks it is 63 hours weekly. I think I have earned my days off. My wife works 20 hours a week on a busy week.