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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/False-Spirit722 on 2023-09-25 23:11:22.

I 50F have a son 23M who is expecting a child with a young lady 18F. The issue is, he does not know the young lady very well and doesn’t have much interest in speaking to her at the moment, so we have a paternity test scheduled pretty soon so we can know before the baby is born.

Although my son is not interested in speaking to her, I am sure he will make a great father as he will warm up to the reality as time goes by. I met this young lady only a few weeks ago, she is 3 months along.

She has had no interest in getting prenatal care, so I’ve scheduled an appointment for her, I offered her a ride and she made an excuse as to why she couldn’t go. I then called her yesterday and she said she was having pain, so I insisted she go to the hospital. She didn’t want to go, and said it was no longer bothering her and she didn’t want to go without my son however I was already on the way and when I came, she wouldn’t come outside so I left, upset.

Today, she sent me a video of a sonogram and I said to her “Congrats! Had you texted that you were going to a doctor or whatever you have going on someone would not have minded being there for you! It’s questionable how you are showing this today when we were only trying to help you yesterday to make sure that you and the baby were ok.”

She felt disrespected and took it that I was saying she was lying about being pregnant, however I don’t care how she takes it because I didn’t call her a liar, and I don’t know if she is. Aita for the way I approached her? I feel my message was quite polite, don’t see how i insinuated she was lying and feel she just took it the wrong way.