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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TinyAardvark on 2023-09-26 14:24:28.

My in-laws want to go on extremely cheap vacations. They want to stay in 2 star hotels and have the 4 of us share a room. They want to make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches sourced from local gas stations for lunch and get fast food for dinner. The only activity is walking- no shows or excursions.

For context, my husband’s parents make about $20k a year. I make about 400k a year. My husband used to make 400k a year too, but was recently laid off.

My husband and his parents insist on splitting the cost of every vacation 50/50. I have offered to pay so we can stay in 5 star hotels, or even just get separate hotel rooms. They refuse to let me pay for anything- not even a dinner!

At this point, I refuse to go on vacation unless I pay for it and we can stay at nicer places. I can easily afford it, but they refuse. My husband sides with them and says we should split everything 50/50. They also want to go on long vacations because they’re visiting from India (we live in the USA), so they typically visit for a month and want to travel the entire time, so I have to save up nearly all my vacation days for this.

Now, I just refuse to go on vacation with them and they’re calling me a spoiled brat and an asshole.