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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TallestTiptoes13 on 2023-09-26 10:41:35.
Okay, this happened about a month ago, but I'm still facing the repercussions. I (F19) and my casual friend (F19) had planned to go to the Eras tour in August. Let's call her Juno. Juno and I are both huge fans and I booked us tickets, which she said she'll pay me for afterwards.
However, a week before the concert, I went out for dinner with Juno and her inner circle. This group was the elitist, film studies major kind. They made fun of my background and compared my interests to their superior ones the whole night, and when I brought up that I was working on an unfinished book, they suddenly became experts in literature themselves. They gave me unsolicited advice that had heavy condescending undertones to it. Whenever I asked about their lives, they had a "you just wouldn't get it" attitude about it. I was very caught off guard. They straight up called me "uncultured" and "simple minded" for not knowing some niche terms etc. They were nor laughing with me, they were laughing AT me.
Turns out, I was an inside joke to them. I was having a convo with two of the girls there, and they started asking about my "monetary issues" and discussing my exes and even their current gfs. Juno had divulged all my secrets to them and gained approval from them in return. I felt exposed, and since they were pretty drunk by that point, they couldn't see that I was uncomfortable.
They were very invested in my personal life and told me "Where I was going wrong". Some things they knew about me were straight up untrue. From there, I also found out that Juno had been trying to make moves on my current partner, and that "I could lose him too, like I did my exes". It was all very funny to them.
Needless to say, I went back home that night and cried. I didn't contact Juno up until the concert, and she didn't bother to do so either since I was always the one initiating our convos. On the day of the concert, I took another friend with me, and posted it on social media. Juno kept calling me the whole day, and since I hadn't sent her the tickets, she couldn't go.
At the end of the day, I finally picked up her phone and said I was busy so I'd missed her previous calls. Juno was livid. She called me very selfish for stealing her only opportunity to go to the concert she's wanted to for so long. I told her then maybe she she shouldn't have spread rumours about me to her pretentious friend group and then set me up to be humiliated by them.
Juno was crying, and said she would've booked seperate tickets if she knew I was so flaky. She didn't even acknowledge my accusations, and kept whining about the concert. Tbh, I didn't even ditch her to get revenge or whatever, I just wanted to enjoy my day with actually decent people.
Flashforward and Juno still keeps harassing me by DMing my friends and gossiping about how b*tchy I was. I shared this with my boyfriend and he thinks I was too harsh on her, and I should've been the bigger person and given her her own ticket atleast.
So, aita?