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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Adorable-Physics706 on 2023-09-26 16:38:41.

My husband and I have been together for 4 years , married for 1. When we met, I was fluent in his language and he never learned mine, I didn't ask him to learn it either. Now, that we've been together for 4 years and planning on having kids I want him to learn my native language. My language is a huge part of my identity, it will also be a part of my children's identity. I want our children to be able to speak both languages. I also think it'll be helpful for him whenever we visit my home country to navigate everything if he knew the language. He keeps making excuses such as it's "too hard" and that he's too busy. He told me that it's unfair for me to demand he learns a new language and I told him the way he's acting makes me feel insulted and unimportant. I don't want to be his translator everytime we visit my parents.

Edit: I think I'll just stop asking him. By "demand" I didn't mean I'm giving him ultimatums or anything of that sort. I've come to the conclusion that I'm having an identity crisis and projecting it on him. Thanks,bye.