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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

Born in 01. I’m excited to be 24 and have a celebration with my girlfriend and family, but I feel OLD.

What is the cutoff? When do you stop being a young woman?

(I was going to say I wish I was still around 10 years younger when I realized that people born in 2011 are going to be/are 14 and not 5.)

Other edit: It’s been almost 8 years since my Sweet 16. Holy crap. My sister was 6.

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[-] serpineslair@lemmy.world 22 points 2 months ago

I'd say anyone under 30 is "young".

[-] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 16 points 2 months ago

I mean anyone before 40, really. Once 40, you're middle aged.

[-] Flagstaff@programming.dev 5 points 2 months ago

The "young adult" category is usually cut off by 30, though, according to Meetup groups and age-restricted social groups I've seen online.

[-] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

According to u.s. law, age discrimination kicks in at 40. If you're under 40 they can say you're too young.

[-] kevincox@lemmy.ml 16 points 2 months ago

You can consider yourself whatever you want for however long you want.

If you feel young and people thing you are weird for saying so that is their problem. Young is a feeling not a number.

[-] Matriks404@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Exactly. I am 29 and I recently was asked for an ID, when I was buying alcohol, lol.

[-] Bridger@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 months ago

0 to 30: young. 30 to 60: middle age. 60 to 90: old. 90 to 120: ancient.

[-] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

... 2000 to 2060: dragon puberty

[-] Screen_Shatter@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Dammit but I thought I was as young as I feel!

Wait... That's still old. Shit.

[-] Dasus@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago

Your brain isn't even fully developed. Cmon now.

[-] kungfuratte@feddit.org 8 points 2 months ago

Sorry, but at 24 you're practically on your death bed. ☹️

[-] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

And nearly too old for dicaprio

[-] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

See but the crazy part is that it just keeps get worse! One day you wake up and have back pain in places you didn't even know could hurt!

[-] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 7 points 2 months ago

"Old" starts at 60-65, not 24 xD

[-] scarabic@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

OP, every day for the rest of your life you’re going to be the oldest you’ve ever been. As time goes on, that age will even become a number you never much thought about or imagined yourself reaching. Around 24 you have pretty much passed all the major rites of initiation and markers of adulthood. There’s nothing else here except getting older. My advice is to get out that imagination and think about what you want your life to be at 50, because it will come.

[-] hddsx@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 months ago

As someone in their 30s, you are a young woman

[-] gencha@lemm.ee 5 points 2 months ago

Even after 40, there's no shortage of people calling you "young". The actually young people don't call you "old" the same way. Just be glad you're alive.

[-] Psythik@lemm.ee 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Yes lol. You're still a baby. The cutoff is in your late 30s to early 40s.

I bet your knees and back don't even hurt yet.

[-] Jarix@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

If you are asking it trying to get a sense of how other people view that age, you might want to assist with who are the people around you that are in the same age bracket and think about each of them when they are with you. How's do they act, so they do anything childish. Do they seem different from how they were 4 years ago

I think you are a young person at that age. I'm 20 years older than you.

When i was your age, 911 happened. The world did not feel nearly as complex as your first 5 years as an adult have been.

How old you feel can change on a lot of things but man you have had to deal with a lot in those last few years and today is a bigger wtf Than the last 4 years, even before that COVID you had to deal with the first Trump administration (assuming you are in America) so where have you got to live with the I'm a young adult starting out in the world mindset? It has felt like one looming that after another.

Unless you are one of those that have been able to turn your brain off and not pay attention to the world around you, i have great sympathy for young adults like you. I think you are going to be the generation that defines the future, it might take another 30 years but you and others your age are going to have some strong opinions when you get into positions of leadership and i think it will be great for everyone when you get there.

You feel old, but i promise you that you aren't old, that's just exhaustion from life and maybe it's the way generations are getting shorter.

Tech is where the world has been since the dot.com bubble and it reshaped the world. You were born at the beginning of a line of demarcation in history. I was born in in the pocket before that where the people that taught me didn't grow up in a world that looks like today.

The Internet in your pocket is a new era and you are going to be one of the people that defines what modern humans are.

Products of an environment that changes every 6 months.

You are probably starting to see the world looking at people younger than you in a way you have never felt before, the bandits of DOGE are younger than you.

The highest paid athletes are starting to be younger than you

You are cruising through a threshold that might be hard to grasp.

But you are not old.

Not to me or many other people

If it bothers you know that how old someone comes across as really isn't related to your physical age.

You can continue to think of yourself as a young woman for a while yet, but you still likely never stop feeling younger than your actual age. I know people 15 years older than me that act younger than i feel.

Not all, but a big enough number of women have told me 26 is when they stopped feeling like a kid, but many people have a concern with not being in their 20s, it really doesn't mean much i promise you that you can feel great about your age no matter what it is and that the challenges in life that you need to solve for, and the solutions you need to use, are what make us feel younger or older than you are

[-] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

There's a 95 year old woman down the road who seems like she's younger than I feel. I wish I still had the spring in my step she has

[-] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago

This is a great response, OP. Read it well.

[-] prime_number_314159@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

My grandmother said that old is always 3 years away, but IMO, the end of being a "young woman" is somewhere around 32.

[-] SeanBrently@lemm.ee 3 points 2 months ago

As has been said, 30. This is why my aunt Sharon has claimed to be 29 for as long as I can remember. She's the only 29 year old in the nursing facility.

[-] Sami@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 months ago

18-24 usually gets grouped together for census and survey stuff so you got a good year left in the tank before you're part of the 25-44 crowd

[-] AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 1 points 2 months ago

And a decade or so before your targeted ads switch from fast fashion, adventure holidays and entertainment to things like lawn care products and orthopedic footwear.

[-] Bridger@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

I just turned 60. To me you look like a very young woman. Make sure to enjoy your life. Tell your loved ones that you love them. Don't do stupid things that will harm you later, because even though it may look like later will never come, it will.

[-] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 3 points 2 months ago

You can consider yourself anything you like. Time is relative. I'm older than you and would say 24 is young. A nineteen year old might look at you as an antique. The trick is to know your audience. Don't openly call yourself young if you're among the elders in the room.

[-] 56_@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 months ago

As a 23 yo who is mostly surrounded by people aged 50-80, you still have a good few decades left. Some people in their 70s treat life like a 30 yo would.

[-] Pangoat@lemmynsfw.com 3 points 2 months ago

Use it before you lose it

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

Yes. You're still young enough where you don't seem out of place going to bars every friday night, and hanging out of the tops of limos going WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO as the limo drives down the street. The driver isn't annoyed that you're not acting your age. The driver is annoyed that his job is basically glorified babysitter on wheels.

But as a young woman, you need all of the advice. You need to do all the things. See all the stuff. And my advice is to do nothing. Relax, don't do it. When you want to go do it. Relax. Don't do it. When you want to come.

All the advice. None of the advice. Do everything. Do nothing. Life is all about making decisions. Some decisions you'll love having made. Others you'll later regret. Life is all about finding the road that leads to self acceptance and inner peace.

But shoot it in the right direction. We're making it your intention. Live those dreams. Scheme those schemes. Got to hit me with those laser beams! Ow ow ow! Laser beam me! 1, 2, 3, 4

[-] iltg@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

im moving the cutoff as i age and im not going to stop :p

[-] loudWaterEnjoyer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 months ago

Yes you were a kid before and now you become a young woman

[-] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 2 points 2 months ago

The main thing now is you are past those every four or so years are different really. The real adulting phase (unless you go to grad schoo :) . Your still in your twenties so this is theoretically one of the better times. Can be on your own but still young enough to party. Once you hit 30's your life is more marked by how aging starts to effect you. Live it up.

People from all across the age spectrum (including this group) use the term "college kids" to refer to folks that are generally 18-22. So if 22 is a kid, you are barely an adult. I'm not sure what all is making you feel old, but maybe having good people on your life can help. I have a spread of ages and it helps with perspective. I am middle age 🫣

[-] Bonje@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

M26. I feel old as shit and it's only gonna get worse. A lot of it is your attitude and environment, something i'm struggling with rn. You can still be young in your 60ies if you have wonderful people surrounding you.

[-] spankinspinach@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

So much of life is mindset. My momma is in her later senior years and still acts 25 in many ways (in a good way lol)

[-] humanspiral@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago

Leornado DiCaprio says you got 1 more year!

[-] Mothra@mander.xyz 1 points 2 months ago

Young and old is relative. I side with those saying young is until 40, then you're middle aged.

[-] darreninthenet@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 months ago

Whereas I'm in my late 40s and don't feel particularly old... if anyone describe me as middle aged I'd assume they were joking around 😂

[-] Mothra@mander.xyz 1 points 2 months ago

I'd just presume they mean you're no spring chicken anymore. I'm in my late 30s, don't feel old at all, most people say I look ten years younger than my actual age. But I don't feel like I belong in the same category as someone in their 20s. Middle aged would be the most appropriate way to describe me in a couple years, even if I don't look the part.

[-] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

It's all relative. I'm 62 - from my perspective you've only recently gone from being a girl to being a woman, so for sure a young woman. Of course in ten years I'll be 72 and you'll be 34, and I'd still call you a young woman.

[-] MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

I'm 72 and yes, you're spot-on. You're both young! Seriously, if I hear of someone dying at 62, I think oh how sad, so young! Perspective is everything.

[-] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Thanks! Even though we're ten years apart, I think we're together on the tail end of the Lemmy age bell curve. It's nice to have company.

[-] spankinspinach@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

As you get older, ppl younger than you just seem youthful at ages you've already passed. You're very young yet, don't even be stressing it for a long time to come

[-] wuphysics87@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 months ago
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