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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowRAonit on 2023-09-27 18:20:07.

Right now, the situation that my wife and I are facing is that, our daughter Dana(17F) weighed in at 233lb(5'9) when she was at her last doctor's appointment. She hated the whole process of getting weighed, people seeing the number, and hearing from her doctor she was too heavy.

Since the appointment, I've tried to slowly implement healthy changes, like asking her to cook with me, offering to go on walks, looking for other activities she might have interest in.

My wife has discouraged this, simply telling me Dana isn't interested and I should drop it. I asked her what her solution was. Her solution is to just weight until Dana decides she's ready to change. My case was that, the weight loss struggle is hard enough, and it will be much harder if her epiphany doesnt come for another 50-100 pounds. I told my wife that her plan was not a plan of success, and unrealistic. She argued that my plan will only cause rebellion.

To my wife, asking Dana on walks is pointless, as is seeing if she wants to cook because she doesn't like exercise or most healthy food. Her idea is to keep things as they are: Let Dana have as many unhealthy snacks as she wants, go buy her bigger and bigger pants and shirts as she outgrows what she has( an issue we've faced a lot over the past few years especially).

My wife tells me it was very upsetting when i told her her ideas were unrealistic

AITA?