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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Intrepid_Dig446 on 2023-10-01 07:26:41.

A friend of mine from college is getting married at a destination I had dreamed of going to for a long time but was totally out of our budget. Her uncle owns a resort and has offered amazing discounts on rooms to her guests. We've had this planned for months, RSVP'd, booked a room, arranged childcare, everything.

Now his brother wants to get married the weekend of the wedding. They're not really doing anything, just a quick ceremony and party in my in-law's backyard. It will be more like a family barbecue then any kind of actual wedding.

My husband wants to cancel everything so we can be in town. I don't want to cancel, for the reasons outlined above. We've been in an arguement about it. I suggested that his brother can just move it to the weekend before or after. They don't have out of town guests, a wedding venue or vendors booked, or anything that would stop them from being able to move it so my husband and I can attend. It's just pure stubbornness.

My husband isn't backing me up on this at all and has definitely been talking shit to his family about me, which I hate. He thinks I'm being entitled.

If his brother was having a real wedding that had been planned for months and involved a ton of time/money spent I'd feel differently. But as I said it costs them nothing to just change the weekend.

AITA?