When I had this issue I made it my characters goal to engourage my party's growth.

I ended up being the leader by merit of my character being more forward thinking and organised.

So instead of me handling anything I'd be like.... "Elf go talk to that guy I have a feeling you will get in well"

I encouraged them to grow in character.

I was expecting that to happen. Haven't seen it yet but was expecting it.

Technically correct

I didn't. You can be narcsistic, or behave in a narcissistic manner without having NPD.

Dictionary definition "a person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish"

I wasn't using them interchangeably.

Narcasists don't like being told "no" they consider it a personal attack.

Interestingly a strong aversion to being told "no" is also the same mindset rapists have.

Also interestingly Spez used to moderate a sub for people who looked underage.

I couln't imagine any of that being related

Where do you even go to dig your own iron.

I remember when WotC did some pro trans PR thing. Someone in the comments was slagging off pathfinder saying "when are they going to include trans characters" Proceeds to get hammered with links from every diverse groups that have existed in pathfinder since forever including a transgender character.

There are lesbian/gay/etc relationships amongst prominent NPCs including gods. Several of the NPCs in the Sandpoint guide are listed as gay, some openly some closeted.

The gods themselves can appear as any gender they like (or none), some are listed as typically appearing male, some female, some will switch back and forth and others have no obvious gender.

Pathfinder didn't need to make a big song and dance about becoming inclusive because they have been so from the start.

Is it hard to walk with those iron balls between your legs.

For real though. Thanks for your efforts and making a stand.