Wow, yes, YTA, what happened to you to engender such a sense of entitlement and disregard for the environment and common sense upcycling? Open your mind and learn from your wife; marriage is about mutual exchange, and you are clearly needing a wider perspective.

No, NTA. Good on you for defending yourself and working to stop hateful behavior before it got worse.

Yes, wow YTA, it's one thing to have an opinion about what you think your husband should be doing, but its far worse to go out of your way to sabotage your husband's decision on how he wishes to take care of his need for food. Try supporting your husband instead of inflicting your twisted view that he is being coddled.

Yep, YTA. Whatever the dress symbolizes to you does not justify your overreaction and cruelty towards your mother in law to be.

I'd go home.