Well I’m sure you have your answers. All I would say is chillies should stay away from groin!

So glad to hear you got along well with the big dong.

I've tried anal toys in the past and good grief, some of them ain't for me (I'm clearly very tight) so I know that pain all too well. Looking forward to the update!

Ah man, sorry to hear about the LTR. Naturally with a bit of distance, things can feel off. Maybe it would help to remember why you dated her in the first place, and put that energy into a call/text? Maybe she would appreciate the recognition!

Here's hoping you guys are still strong over Christmas!

I have wondered this myself in the past!

Hey! Sorry for the long delay in responding! It's been a busy last week and current week!

It seems like last week was the week of abstinence for a lot of us! 🤣

Of course, I pledged to quit using escorts/sex workers for sex. As promised, I've done just that!

I've signed up to Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. The only women who have matched with me are basically cryptoscammers from Singapore.

I did choose to open myself up to being matched with males for the sake of seeing if my account was being hidden by the algorithms. Considering I was flooded with male matches, I'm not being hidden - women just keep swiping left every time they see me 🥲

I'm sure I need to take a deeper look at my profile to make sure I haven't said anything offputting or not having too many selfies (very guilty of the latter - I feel like guys just don't ask their friends to take pictures of them near landmarks and shit).

So all in all, no hanky-pany, and no dates. Boo!

I did go to a charity event and saw lots of old friends, so that was awesome! Not so awesome? Getting the flu. This is why I've taken so long to respond to this thread, so my deepest apologies.

Going back to sex workers/escorting - I'm not going to lie, I do have a deep hankering to go back to the escort and have some fun, but I do realise that's the lizard part of my brain that enjoys having sex on a tap. I also know it's not good to have that expectation of women (even women in sex work) that are ready to have sex on my beck and call.

It is hard trying to challenge that lizard brain that wants nookie, but I also have to realise that the reason why I'm leaving it behind was the realisation that there are a lot of ethical issues around sex work - the escort I frequented accidentally admitted that there are times she doesn't want to have sex, but effectively "encourages" herself to go through with it as she needs the money.

Now that sounds a lot like coercion to me - and it's not the relationship dynamic that I want from anyone. So it's just another week of putting a lid on it.

The Maddie romcom continues!!

It sounds like a lot of fun, but also a very controlled and stable relationship too! So glad to hear it!

And don't feel bad about scissoring - I didn't think doggystyle existed out of porn until I tried it. In my head I thought I looked like a pornstar, but the reflection in the mirror looked like someone who was attempting to move a box across the room by thrusting his hips at it. Astronomically shameful display, truth be told 🤣🤣🤣

Wednesday dude needs to chill tf out. You can grab people, but if you end up hurting people, then just chill. Good lord!

This week seemed to end a lot more better than last time, so hurrah for that! And party girl might be coming back in the mix, so who knows where that'll take you!

My heart broke for power bottom dude - he seems so sweet, but at the same time, you got to go with how you're feeling. Hopefully he doesn't feel like he's been strung along - if he's catching feelings and you aren't, then it's probably best to have a conversation (I've been on the receiving end of this many times, and while these conversations suck, it ripping off that band aid sooner rather than later helps with the healing process).

Lots of very promising experiences, I hope something blossoms from it!

Oh, and the Monday grinder bro - poor dude. I'm so glad you let him have his moment lol

I personally enjoy sex only when I feel connected to my partner, and I’m not sure I could feel that way with an escort who is being paid for their time.

Yeah, and this was a big part of it. I remember reading/watching someone describing sleeping with escorts/prostitutes as drinking saltwater in that you think you feel refreshed, but are constantly thirsty. I think that's a great analogy, except for the fact that my sexual needs were and are met tbh. It's just my emotional/relationship needs aren't being met, and no escort could deliver that tbh.

If you ever want someone to chat with, msg me any time :-)

Thanks dude, you've been really nice and helpful since I've met you. Who knows, I may end up just reaching out just to say hi :)

This is such a cool and sweet story! I’m so glad things worked out for you!

Clearly this is something that should be put in the adverts:

Great for exercise and bedroom bondage!

Haha aww, this is sweet!

Not sure about biting, but I love being kissed on the neck. I may be like "hurr durr I'm a man, well 'ard, innit" but kiss me on the neck and you can probably get my credit card details off me...

Wow! That must've been pretty cool (but also pretty difficult to get hard for obvious reasons!)