Not really an answer to your question, but your reply reminded me of the Paradox of Tolerance.

Now we’re Jive talkin’!

You might have a look at the “Genderbread Person”. It gets at some of the variables you’re considering. https://www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/genderbread-person/#gp4

That’s basically what Tim Berners-Lee is proposing with Solid. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solid_(web_decentralization_project)