What a sad situation. I know a lot of people here think this is abuse and I can see their perspective, but I see this more as a relationship lacking communication. The wife didn't feel assured that her husband loved her anymore and the divorce papers were a last ditch effort to see if he still does. Sure, just talking openly would be better, but goddamn is it hard to find people who can do that.

I think the fact that she broke down and tore up the papers immediately after is a sign that she really didn't want to do it and was reacting to his genuine reply.

I think OOP needs couple's therapy.